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Originally Posted by Treasenuak
It is the choice to submit one's will to another, to give control to someone who has EARNED it, not to any tom, dick, or harry on the streets. My Sir EARNED my respect and trust, and my submission, over a long period of time.
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Let me first say you are doing a very impressive job of taking everyone's concerns rationally and in the spirit they were intended (that is, not to offend but to help.) Have you considered how your desire for the above might be connected to the abusive husband you just left? It seems that, rather than recognizing how the traits you are attracted to inherently put you in a dangerous situation before, you are instead blaming the particular person--i.e., it's okay for someone to dominate you, just not in
that way, only in
this other way. Are you really sure at this point that you can tell the difference between the "good" dominators and the bad ones?