The Cellar - View Single Post - I'm polyamorous and into the BDSM lifestyle as a switch and bottom.

Sundae · 11-20-2008, 05:55 PM

Trea, thanks again for responding with complete candour.
I just feel I need to ask... You had a Dom who was cutting you a decade ago in New York? I thought you were in your early twenties? My bad if you're not, but that seems really early to start experimenting - are you sure it didn't influence later decisions?

And no, I do not belive for one minute that you "deserved" an abusive partner. Consensual S&M and abuse are completely separate - consensual S&M would never satisfy an abuser or rapist and non-consensual abuse or rape would never be accepted by someone simply into D&S play. I'm just asking if you experienced this lifestyle before your sexual preferences were fully realised.

11-20-2008, 05:55 PM	#53
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Trea, thanks again for responding with complete candour. I just feel I need to ask... You had a Dom who was cutting you a decade ago in New York? I thought you were in your early twenties? My bad if you're not, but that seems really early to start experimenting - are you sure it didn't influence later decisions? And no, I do not belive for one minute that you "deserved" an abusive partner. Consensual S&M and abuse are completely separate - consensual S&M would never satisfy an abuser or rapist and non-consensual abuse or rape would never be accepted by someone simply into D&S play. I'm just asking if you experienced this lifestyle before your sexual preferences were fully realised.