Lumberjim: Not in that context, no. Play is completely separate.
SundaeGirl: "NEARLY" a decade, dear. I'm 25... I was 17 or 18 when I met that Sir. Yes, it was a bit early to start experimenting, but that's how I discovered what I did like... and it's taken that long for me to finally act on it and seek out what I liked, rather than being ashamed of it and hiding it.
Jinx: You hit the nail on the head. WE as women are responsible for our safety. RAPISTS are responsible for the rape.
Again, I thank ALL of you for your concern and input. This is definitely a more lively discussion than I had imagined it would be!