[DanaC]

I am in total agreement Cicero. As soon as I read that post my hackles went up.


As for parental responsibility: I don't think anybody here is arguing that parents have a financial responsibility to adult children. That said, my mum and Dad have at times stepped in and helped out when I've been broke. Between my mum, myself and my brother (and even J, who has remained to all intents and purposes a member of the family despite our having split long ago and him now having another partner) there is a shared sense of responsibility. None of us have much more than we need for the lives we're leading. We don't have large amounts of money saved, we don't have high wages. My bro and his wife are doing ok, he is self-employed, she's a nurse; mum's on a pension and works intermittently with asylum seekers and refugees. J, like me, is a full-time student with part time earnings alongside.

We all help each other out when needed. There was a spell of about a year where I was just perma-broke, really struggling; between them mum, J and my Bro got me through that. This year I've had an easier time of it (marginally:P) and have been able to return the favour somewhat.

When J and I split and I needed somewhere to go, there was no question but that I'd stay at mum's til I got a place sorted. In typical fashion, the first place I went when i walked out of the door was mum's. It always is. To me, that is what families are.