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Sundae · 07-30-2009, 02:40 PM

Crikey.
All I can say is, things are very different in America, esp attitudes towards customer service and shooting people. Don't get me wrong, I get pissed off at bad service. I whinge and rant. But it's not considered a "right" here (we don't have them

) Then again, I've come up against this before, here.

And relationship/ family disputes... still I should realise that praying, rehab and guns in one sentence take it out of the realm of my understanding.

Okay, so what I came to vent is small beans compared to Yesman's case. Sorry.

Mum has been reacting to a financial issue all week.
And it's not all that bad (the issue) because my Great Aunt's settlement is finally in sight.
But the pressure, plus the fact she is on her own all day (paid petsitting at my SIL's parents' house) means she's been a complete bitch every night. Sorry, but she has - I've stayed in my room in earplugs, and eaten at 17.00 so I can avoid being around when she comes home.

And yes, I have done all I can in terms of housework etc to try to assuage her.
I don't know exactly what the problem is, apart from her usual simmering anger, but nothing is right and she resents both me & my Dad this week.

Funnily enough, this is not to do with Mum - although the problems with her are stopping me sleeping this week.
I asked if she would like to see La Cage Aux Folles in the West End because John Barrowman is in it. She wants to use up the theatre vouchers she got when she retired. So it's a yes! Happy, happy!

She asked Dad - of course. I'd love it to be a family outing. But she said, "I don't think you'd like it." She started her desription of the musical with, "Two gays are bringing up a son...." My Dad turned his face away at once. Now I'm not blaming Mum for her precis - which was basic, but accurate I suppose. It's my Dad's homophobia that bothers me. I know it's there. I've heard it more than once. But the idea it extends to fiction/ musical theatre. When he's been to see so much in the West End/ watched musicals on TV. It's like, gay talent is fine, as long as it's played straight.

Sigh.
The child of his time/ adopted religion.
It just hurts that a man I love so much and admire, and I know to be so gentle and tolerant in other ways can hate and dismiss so many people.

Upsets me.

07-30-2009, 02:40 PM	#4375
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Crikey. All I can say is, things are very different in America, esp attitudes towards customer service and shooting people. Don't get me wrong, I get pissed off at bad service. I whinge and rant. But it's not considered a "right" here (we don't have them ) Then again, I've come up against this before, here. And relationship/ family disputes... still I should realise that praying, rehab and guns in one sentence take it out of the realm of my understanding. Okay, so what I came to vent is small beans compared to Yesman's case. Sorry. Mum has been reacting to a financial issue all week. And it's not all that bad (the issue) because my Great Aunt's settlement is finally in sight. But the pressure, plus the fact she is on her own all day (paid petsitting at my SIL's parents' house) means she's been a complete bitch every night. Sorry, but she has - I've stayed in my room in earplugs, and eaten at 17.00 so I can avoid being around when she comes home. And yes, I have done all I can in terms of housework etc to try to assuage her. I don't know exactly what the problem is, apart from her usual simmering anger, but nothing is right and she resents both me & my Dad this week. Funnily enough, this is not to do with Mum - although the problems with her are stopping me sleeping this week. I asked if she would like to see La Cage Aux Folles in the West End because John Barrowman is in it. She wants to use up the theatre vouchers she got when she retired. So it's a yes! Happy, happy! She asked Dad - of course. I'd love it to be a family outing. But she said, "I don't think you'd like it." She started her desription of the musical with, "Two gays are bringing up a son...." My Dad turned his face away at once. Now I'm not blaming Mum for her precis - which was basic, but accurate I suppose. It's my Dad's homophobia that bothers me. I know it's there. I've heard it more than once. But the idea it extends to fiction/ musical theatre. When he's been to see so much in the West End/ watched musicals on TV. It's like, gay talent is fine, as long as it's played straight. Sigh. The child of his time/ adopted religion. It just hurts that a man I love so much and admire, and I know to be so gentle and tolerant in other ways can hate and dismiss so many people. Upsets me. Last edited by Sundae; 07-30-2009 at 03:24 PM. Reason: Clarity - changed "her" to "Mum"