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Here's my older person's take.
You can and probably will have lots of loves. There's not just one. It is all weird random timing. And deep love is nothing like the initial romance, its tougher, but can be way more rewarding.
Romance is based on shakey and exciting ground- sex! will he? will she? when can we be together? There is more to know and explore, and you long to be together.
Thing is, that the thing you long for, the togetherness and closeness serves to obliterate the shakes which in turn, obliterate the surface thrill. You have commitment, security. And for some...game over. But I dont think it has to be.
Thats kinda where I'm at. Married now for 14 years, love the Mr. like crazy, but needing to realize some new depth, because we are not the same people we were at 25. And I'm seeing a lot of what I know were solid relationships of similar vintage hit this iceberg and break.
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