Sage advice already in this thread. I only have lyrics to add.
Speaking for myself, if I'd married any of the blokes I thought I was 'truly in love with' I'd have been divorced about 10 times by now. I know I love my husband, and I knew after our first date we'd be together for the long haul, but there was no crazy mad 'in love' silliness involved ever. We just loved each other from the start and I think we always will.