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I see that all the time... There is certainly a better way to resolve it then hitting. I don't care where we are... I'll find a time out spot if I have to… I’ve even been known to remove them from wherever we are, but hitting is not acceptable. Kids behave according to what they have been taught and what they see.
The thing is training a dog isn't that much different... both kids and dogs exhibit many of the same behaviors and respond likewise.
I am a big fan of a combination of Attachment Parenting and Logical Consequences. I have only spanked one… and it was because my daughter bit my son… she was about 2 and he was about 6 months… I needed her to understand the pain before I could tell her why inflicting it was wrong… I apologized to her and I told her she hurt brother and needed to apologize to him and then she had to sit in time out. We use time out a lot. I also have to remind myself often… is what they are doing age appropriate?
My friends on the other hand… most of them have unruly kids… it drives me crazy. I don’t keep my kids from hanging out with them… I think it is important for kids to learn how to deal with difficult personalities, but I continue to put them in time out even while my friends let their kids run crazy and they proceed to yell at them. Now I’ll admit… I am a far cry from a perfect parent… we joke with them that they can deal with “Nice Mama” or “Mean Mama” the choice is up to them…. Sometimes they really get under my skin and I know my reaction isn’t what it should be, but when I see how others act I feel a bit better about myself.
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