[Radar]

I don't know why you made a pretext about asking for advice, when it's obvious you already take the woman's side. (typical for women).

I gave some sound and intelligent advice for someone who genuinely wanted advice, but it seems like all you've been doing is trying to convince us that a man who is concerned for his wife's health is wrong by having coffee with another person who happens to be a female. If my wife were ever to tell me who I would or wouldn't hang out with, she'd be my ex-wife very quickly. And if she actually was psycho enough to approach a friend of mine and act like an idiot (yes your "friend" acted like an idiot), she'd be out on her ass in a heartbeat.

If she doesn't trust him, she should leave. If she does, than act like a normal person and don't spaz out because he has coffee with someone. If he hit on someone in the past it doesn't matter. Maybe he was drunk? In the end it doesn't matter if he looks at the menu, or even smells the food as long as he doesn't order anything. Heck, he could even order it as long as he doesn't eat it.

Undertoad: I didn't cheat on my ex-wife either, but while we were separated she started sleeping with some other guy immediately (we were still married) and said it was "none of my business" when I asked why she didn't tell me about it. And after she cheated on me (if you have sex while you're still married it's cheating even if you're separated) she said, "You probably cheated anyway".

In the end we're both better off. She has a house, car, appliances, and other stuff I gave her and a new husband, and I am free of her. I'm also getting married to a much more beautiful, young, kind-hearted, trusting, and pleasant woman in less than 2 months. The planning is expensive and stressful, (Planning a wedding in Vietnam is difficult and isn't cheap) but I'm much happier and I'm pretty sure my ex-wife is happier too.