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hot_pastrami · 12-20-2003, 02:45 AM

Has she tried pointed questions? For instance:

Do you love me?

(Assuming he answers yes) Do you want me to be happy?

(Assuming he answers yes again) Then why do you continue to spend time with this girl when it so clearly makes me unhappy?

If his answer is something like "You're making a big deal out of nothing," she needs to ask the question again. Why does he do something to make his wife, who he loves, and who he wants to be happy, unhappy? It DOES matter.

It is OK for her to admit jealousy. It is OK for her to mention that he is her husband, and therefore ALL HERS. That's what he promised at the wedding. It won't be productive to accuse him of cheating, but it may make him more aware of her feelings if she tells him that she feels he's been being inconsiderate and disrespectful of his beloved wife.

I hope that she had the forethought to make her letter communicate her love and concern as much as her suspicions and worries.

Damn, I'm really drunk now, I'd better hit the sack. G'nite.

12-20-2003, 02:45 AM	#14
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	Has she tried pointed questions? For instance: Do you love me? (Assuming he answers yes) Do you want me to be happy? (Assuming he answers yes again) Then why do you continue to spend time with this girl when it so clearly makes me unhappy? If his answer is something like "You're making a big deal out of nothing," she needs to ask the question again. Why does he do something to make his wife, who he loves, and who he wants to be happy, unhappy? It DOES matter. It is OK for her to admit jealousy. It is OK for her to mention that he is her husband, and therefore ALL HERS. That's what he promised at the wedding. It won't be productive to accuse him of cheating, but it may make him more aware of her feelings if she tells him that she feels he's been being inconsiderate and disrespectful of his beloved wife. I hope that she had the forethought to make her letter communicate her love and concern as much as her suspicions and worries. Damn, I'm really drunk now, I'd better hit the sack. G'nite. __________________ Hot Pastrami!