[Sundae]

Mum decided that the man in the bed beside Grandad was there because he was on drugs.

For no reason I could really understand. But part of her decision was because he didn't eat his soup yesterday, and yet he claimed he had when his parents were there.

He looked about my age and we had a conversation yesterday.
I saw him eat his soup (part of our conversation was that Mum thought it was disgusting but she hates peas; he admitted loving mint and adding it to many dishes).

As with many of her knee-jerk impressions, I can't accept it as valid. And given some of the things I've heard her say about me, and the twisted versions of events I've heard her relate, I shouldn't be surprised. Sigh.

FTR Grandad is speaking better than he has in years. Very little stuttering and repetition. Sadly, he is not speaking much sense. This has deteriorated within DAYS. Mum is unlikely now to get power of attorney, which is awful. Much as I bitch about her, she would never abuse the position.

He thinks the men in the cubicle opposite are causing trouble for Nanny - or sometimes Aunty Alice, they both had the same name but he called Aunty Alice, Lal and he sometimes interchanges them now. He's also been asking for Gip to sort them out. Gip is Guiseppi, an Italian friend who was his Best Man. Gip did have a reputation, and held both Nanny and Lal in very high esteem. Dead for years now of course. Gdad got a card from Gip's Grandson at Christmas - I read it out but he had no idea who he was, "One of your Mum's friends. Or a wrong address or something." Took it home to Mum and she was indignant - "Of course he knows him, he brough his Mum to his [Gdad's] 80th" Ah well.

Sorry - a lot of that wasn't irritation.
And I probably should be easier on Mum.
Still, better out than in...?