[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Bear in mind Ibby, there is also probably an element of not wanting to be 'tricked' by someone. That is to say, someone posting themselves as one thing, and then having got the response for that, outing themselves as the other with a big guffaw at those who were fooled. Less about what the other person is identifying themselves as so much as not wanting to be the butt of someone's deliberate fooling.

Not suggesting for one moment that that was what was happening, but just as posting pics of oneself is putting it out there...so is responding with arousal. I imagine a lot of people would feel slightly edgy about expressing desire if they even half suspected that said desire was then going to be flung back at them as the basis for jokes and/or insults. Our bodies are very personal, but so are our desires, and therefore both are likely to be wrapped up with certain sensitivities.

Just as we should respect and understand other people's own reading of their sexuality and gender identity, we should also spare a little understanding for the knotty issues around sexual desire and how problematic public expressions of those can be for some people.

And the last thing I think of when I think of you is 'butch'. You are a wonderfully elegant looking lad. Personally I have always rather liked androgynous looks. Maybe because I tend that way myself. I like it in gals and guys.

Funnily enough I thought about you whilst i was watching Christopher and his Kind on tv the other week. There was a description of 'boys' as being very beautiful. Put me in mind of you.

Well stated. Thanks Dana.