I had two aunts die of breast cancer. One of them had her cancer diagnosed too late after it had already spread. There was little they could do for her. My other aunt's cancer was discovered at a stage where it most likely could have been cured with surgery and chemo. Aunt2 refused to get medical help. She told the family that God would cure her. I'm sure God would have given it His best shot if she would have let him. God had sent experienced physcians and the latest discoveries in treatment of cancer. My aunt turned her back on them and died. It makes me sad to this day.
Anon, as others have mentioned, going to a doctor for a diagnosis doesn't mean your friend has to undergo treatment. In your place, I would strongly encourage your friend to go in and see what's going on. It may not be as bad as she thinks. It might be treatable. She might have many years ahead of her. I would definitely enlist the daughter's help, as well. If it were a matter of MY mother's life or death, I'd certainly want to know.
Best of luck to you and your friend. Cancer sucks.
