[Sundae]

Just to reiterate what I'm saying - I'm not saying stay away, or she's a witch, or get rid.
It's easy to judge people I don't know, and you admit you put at least some pressure on the relationship in the past.

I've read posts from more than one Dwellar in a bad situation; things go from tricky to absolute FUCK as soon as lawyers become involved, and they get involved at a very early stage in the US.

I'm saying take it slowly.
I experienced love past the rollercoaster hormonal stage once in my life.
In the end I honestly believed it wouldn't work and I'm still 85% sure of that, because he was a wonderful man I just didn't find physically attaractive.
My regret at marrying him haunts my dreams.
I did the right thing, but I still suffer now wondering if I could have faked enough to make it work.

What a shitty thing to do to a man.
But he'd have accepted it at the time.

I'm not saying give her another chance.
I'm just saying you shared a hell of a lot, and will always be connected via your children.
Be open to giving yourself another chance.