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Great advice. Civility is good, especially where kids are involved. And one person can take the high road even if the other person stops at some point.

But - do protect yourself. Most of us probably wish we'd done a better job. 'Nuff said.

And the emotional storm - I didn't realize it would happen and wasn't well prepared for it; I thought I was totally resolved and didn't expect to feel yanked hither and yon. Knowing about it, preparing for it, is a good thing.

Glad things are calm for now. Get your stuff safe, take care of yourself, be good to yourself. People here have your back.