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She may just be very socially inept and unable to see that her way of doing things clashes utterly with your way of doing things.
Of course having a friend like that can be a pain in the butt, particularly if said friend is actually only interested in talking about themselves. Not that I mind people who talk mainly about themselves, it's usually interesting to hear their stories, but not when it is imposed on me at a time I don't want to be engaging.
I've had friends like that. One of them used to drive me and J demented turning up at odd times and never ever taking a hint. Once he was installed in the house he'd be there til gone midnight. Actually had to ask him to leave a few times. And if you didn't answer the door when he rang the bell he'd walk around and start peering in windows and tapping on them. One time we were actually in bed, having a lazy Sunday morning an dhe kept it up for 25 minutes. We were in a ground floor flat...our bedroom window was on a level with the rest and he was trying to peer in the gap in the curtains and tapping on the glass as we lay there silent and trying not to laugh sheer disbelief.
He also had a darling side though. And was genuinely a friend, rather than a neighbour/acquaintance we'd picked up along the way. And in truth would do anything for anyone, as long as they said it up front and didn't try to make subtle hints. Poor guy, he's dead now. Was about 32 I think when he died.
Have had other less pleasant examples though, and your method of just not really engaging beyond civil responses to texts is very similar to how I dealt with those situations.
I think if she turns up again without advance notice, you should not let her in. Keep her at the door (as others have said), be firm but not unfriendly, matter of fact. You can even thank her for coming round to see you're ok, but that it is not a good time for a visit.
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