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Old 05-02-2013, 05:38 PM   #9293
Ocean's Edge
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Join Date: Apr 2013
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Long story short: young lady daughter, with a certificate in digital animation and a case of high functioning autism ... moved in with college friends in Ottawa last August after graduation before we packed up everything and moved to rural Nova Scotia.

Things haven't been working out so well for her there (although she's done well with keeping her financial situation relatively stable) .... so she's decided that it's not working and when her friends give up their current apartment in July - she won't be moving with them.

This sucks on all sorts of levels of SUCKatude.

I'm hoping her emotionally useless but financially stable father living in the GTA will see fit to try and rebuild his relationship with her (not a falling out, more a 'he never bothers to call') and allow her to move in with him and his new wife (whom she does like) ... while I hate the idea of her living with my ex - she is grown up now and the job opportunities will be better there as will the possibilities for counseling / therapy / doctors / services / something to deal with the emotional issues that have made the whole thing so hard for her.

I do still have close friends in southern ontario who will be able to keep a look out for her, provide emotional, and advocacy support for her ... if that works out. It's again... not making me happy, but it's reasonably the better opportunity for her.

I'm not holding my breath that the asshole will show any kindness or support to his child ...

In which case I may have to fly to Ottawa, rent a truck, drive her here .. in late June / early July .... something we really can't afford to do, we will find her doctors and supports and therapy here .... but jobs are gonna be very hard to come by - we're a 45 min drive to the nearest town .... and even that is a pretty depressed area job wise..... it's gonna be hard enough for ME to find a job to keep us going...

Love her to bits, the Feychild is a bright and shining light and an amazing person, and never never never in 10,000 years will I ever tell my children they can't come home to us to be safe, I'm just not sure right now how safe any of us are.

Not upset at her or with her, but for her.

F**K!
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