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Originally Posted by Clodfobble
The thing I wonder is, how do these same people behave in other relationships? Are there certain people who bring out the worst in us? Are these four behaviors learned over a lifetime and only able to be solved through introspection, or can simply changing partners change everything about one's own behavior?
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In my experience they are separate. My wife exhibits all four of these traits towards me, but is not that way AT ALL with her friends. I am willing to bet that it is entirely how relationships were modelled to her. Also there is a family mythology on her mothers side that is strongly anti-husband, and of course this results in deep scrutiny and fact finding missions.