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Originally Posted by Gravdigr
It disturbed you to the point you cooled off on the step-grandchildren?
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It made me want to distance myself from him, and them, yes.
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To look at this a little differently, if he bought a car you didn't like, and crowed, and crowed about what an awesome car he has, would you be feeling this way toward the step-grandchildren?
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If he bought a car which he didn't need, instead of buying groceries, (which was the thing about the ammo; he was wanting to spend money on that instead of bills & groceries), yes, I'd not want to be close to him. It wasn't the item purchased, it was the idea that he would buy something un-needed rather than feeding his kids that took me aback. And that he let the nut-case narrative get to him so much that he believes their nonsense about buying large amounts of ammo.
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I was only curious why the step-grandchild/step-grandmother relationship has to suffer cuz the two of you don't care for each other's opinion.
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It's an 'avoidance' reaction. I don't yell at or nag people, I leave, that's my thing. In this case, I feel a lot of negativity around my stepson and I just don't want to be close to him.
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Having said this, I have no children, no step-children, no grandchildren, and no step-grandchildren.
Which may explain why I don't get it.
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Billions and billions of words have been written about parent-child relationships yet it's still difficult to relate how it feels. It's very strange, here is a person who is a part of you yet a separate person. Kids can hurt you or make you angrier than anyone else, because of the closeness, I reckon.
Clear as mud, right?
Anyway, I have been thinking about the original issue and I've decided that I am just going to let it ride and see how things go.