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Originally Posted by elSicomoro
I wish I could figure out what makes my son tick.
He was diagnosed with Asperger's about 6 months ago...add to that he's ADHD and has some bipolar issues. We currently have a running battle about not eating in the living room...he can get pretty messy and leaves his trash lying around, so we banned him from eating up here.
He'll do okay for a few days, then he does it again. And he gets grounded...he was confined to his bedroom with no electronics all day yesterday. So what did he do this morning? Did it again. How do I know? Because he left the fucking plate up here!
I love him dearly, but he is such a horrible liar...and he always leave a trail of evidence. He likes to have his "me" time in the morning, but I might have to start getting up with him. His carelessness has caused us to have roaches and mice.
Did I mention that I can't wait for him to go back to school? 2 more weeks.
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Has he always eaten in the living room prior to this ban? how old is he? Do the rest of you eat in the living room? If it's a long-learned habit and it's something that everyone else does, it's hard enough for any teen to change, but especially if routine is their comfort zone, which is generally especially true of people with Asperger's.
Perhaps you could take some time to help him develop a cleaning up routine. Maybe feeling the blame and shame for the mice and roach leaves him seeking the comfort of his familiar habit, even though it eventually ends in more trouble. Is he interested in researching things? perhaps you could set him a project to learn how best to avoid the pests, and when he learns on his own about the food waste thing, it will help him feel more comfortable about adjusting his behavior?