[xoxoxoBruce]

I have anecdotes too, several guys that lost everything and 2 that went to prison over trumped up lies. But they're no more evidence than anyone else's anecdotes.

There's something I wonder about though. Over the years I've heard/read a number of jokes which involved the same theme, what she's thinking, and what he's thinking. There's probably one or two in the humor thread. Sometimes she's writing in a diary, or talking to a friend, laying out a whole thought process that goes on and on about what she thinks he's feeling, what she thinks he's thinking, about a sexual encounter or their relationship. The punch line is always he isn't, he's wondering why his bike didn't want to idle, or why he hasn't heard from the taxidermist stuffing his fish.

This theme keeps popping up because it's funny. It's funny because most people can relate to situations where you find a significant other is thinking entirely different than you are. the same reason the Mars / Venus thing comes back like a cucumber sandwich. We do think differently, if for no other reason than we're raised differently. The cultural influences, the parental expectations, the education system, all shape our thought processes.

That long winded excursion was to say maybe the differences in descriptions of an incident can stem from how people view them, how they think about them. Most everyone agrees rape is bad, but it's harder to get a consensus on a definition of what constitutes rape. I'll never accept it's rape if you change your mind after, or regret your decision.