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Old 04-23-2015, 07:04 AM   #24
Clodfobble
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Ali, I think you handled the letter as a whole beautifully, and believe me when I say that I completely 100% understand what a fucking rage-inducer teenage behavior can be. But as your friend, I feel compelled to say, as kindly as possible, that this:

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I doubt you will ever find anyone who will love you more than I do.
is a... well, it's unhelpful to your cause.

Your love is your love, and cannot and should not be compared to the "quantity" of love that someone else may or may not feel for him. Beyond the fact that it is objectively impossible for anyone to really know what another person feels (is the red I see the same as your red?,) the implication is that he owes you something--maybe just acknowledgement or respect, if not a reciprocation of those same feelings--for being the "best" at loving him. I know that's not what you meant, but that is how it comes across.

"You will never find someone who loves you as much as I do" says as much about how he is borderline unlovable as it does about how good you are at loving him. It's the kind of phrase that is never intended to hurt, but pretty much always does.
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