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Here's the problem, dude. Everyone feels differently about these experiences in their lives.
My brother and I lived the exact same experience (not the same as yours, I'm saying the same as each other) with our dad and stepdad. Yet somehow he came out of it unable to cope with or identify with my dad in any way, but fairly-to-completely indifferent to my stepdad even though I watched the man abuse him on countless occasions. Meanwhile I love my dad--he has his faults but they are Crotchety Old Man faults that amuse more than irritate--and have cut my stepdad out of my life completely.
No one can predict for you how this boy will feel. And how he feels now might be different from how he feels a few years from now, or as an adult. My personal instinct would be to leave well enough alone, if for no other reason than contacting him is guaranteed to royally piss off his mother, and that will lead to conflict, which will have a negative affect on him regardless of who is right.
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