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Originally Posted by John Sellers
So you accept my apology for a comment that you won't forgive. Seems to me that you don't believe my apology is sincere.
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It doesn't matter if your apology is sincere. When you (meaning any you, not you you) attack, insult, ridicule, someone you do damage, as sure as a physical attack. Often the damage is worse. The majority of people (in real life, less so on the net) will say they forgive you in order to deescalate and keep the peace. But they don't forget, and it doesn't repair the damage. Likely the people who love you really do forgive, but they don't forget either.
I realize your health issues have limited your real life interaction with the general public, and I suspect much of the way you deal with people you learned on the net. In the real world everything you do and say, every interaction with especially strangers, has consequences. Running off at the mouth in a bar, at a ballgame or on the subway, can get you shot, stabbed, pushed under the train, or if you're lucky, just bleeding. Even Leroy Brown met somebody meaner.
The net is different world, a world where you can be an asshole with far less consequences, at least dangerous ones. The result is people are less reluctant to be an asshole, but that doesn't reduce the damage they do. It's easy to say just shut the machine off and that takes care of that, but if it were that simple we wouldn't be reading about all the suicides from online attacks.
There are people who can't, or won't, refrain from assholery online. If you get around the net you run into them. They become a known pariah, unwelcome anywhere, so they spend their online time just fucking with people, stirring as much shit as they can. Like part of the hole in the wall gang who ride into town, shoot up the saloon, rob the bank, and go back to hide in the boonies. That's a fucked up way to live, but the damage they've done leaves them no choice.
I'd suggest you think a little more about consequences before lashing out. Not for my sake, not for the Cellar's sake, for yours.