It may be too late for counseling, but might be interesting too. You're coming to the table from a different place now, a place of strength, without the nagging fears that if it doesn't end in reconciliation you're fucked. As a result you can be more open with your feelings of what worked and what didn't. What ever you decide to do, and however it plays out, you're cool.
Oh, and wear something that lets your nipples poke through, it drives every guy crazy.
