Thats a damn shame to hear, but if its what you both want to do then just be as grownup and sensible about it as you sound like you are being and you'll both do fine. Play it right and you could both be the one that helps the other through the split.
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If not, or if it’s a one sided decision, then you can’t remain friends, because one will be the perceived victim
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Even if its one sided. I still dont see that as a reason you cant be friends. When someone has been a major part of your life the bond remains often even if the nature of the relationship changes.
Most everyone I know who has been through a divorce has stayed friends with their ex, with only one exception that I can think of offhand.
The very fact you mention she is likely in need of support also suggests to me that you still want the best for each other even if things have had ( for whatever reason ) run their course.
I really do believe that most of us go through life adding people to our extended family....I know people who have had two and three marriages and theyre exes and they with respective partners are all great friends and visit each others houses :P
When my ex and I split we just changed the parameters of our relationship . It changed rather than ended. Divorce ends the marriage, it neednt end the friendship, ( unless you want it to)
It wasnt always easy to keep the freindship but I think if you decide you want that it's then just a case of making sure...of consciously keeping the other person in your life in a meanigful way. The fact you share a child may actually make things easier rather than harder. It will encourage you to make the transition an easy one for your little one and by extension yourselves.
Good luck to both of you. In the darker moments just think about the fact that in a year's time you can look back at that moment and know you got through it.
