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Counseling helped me to stay in my crappy marriage for an additional four years longer than I should have.
I guess my main advice is to know that you're probably going to go through the five stages of grief, and that your best bet is to allow yourself to feel all those emotions. Some of them may be terrible at the moment, but put in the back of your mind that although your feelings are real and very legit, they are also only really a phase that you must pass through to get to the other side.
Do not make any important decisions during the anger phase.
Every legitimate feeling you feel, you feel as strongly as you want to, because it is part of what makes you human.
Wisdom comes through looking honestly as you can at what is going on, doing that post-mortem, knowing you'll learn from it and not repeat your mistakes. You'll be a richer person for having experienced this, even though you don't know it now.
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