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cowhead · 05-03-2004, 01:03 PM

Perth, sorry to hear it, long ass story.. (the condesed version) but an old fiance (we almost got married 3 times and lived together for about 7 years) and I are still very very close friends, it took a while to get there.. but once we both let go of the pettty b*ullsh*t and remembered that we liked each otther as people in the first place.. all was well and good. (heh, I even catered her wedding)

as to the overall topic.
I think Men and Women can be just friends, I have know some female friends upwards of 17 years, and yes. at some point there was some physical attraction, but all told we realized that we'd be better off friends.. and still are to this day (although one of them has hit on me on a number of occasions.. usually alcohol related)

I'll try to find the link to the study on initial attraction and lasting frendships.. I read it a few years ago and it really answered some questions about brain chemistry, emotions and the strength of friendships that follow. (one study found that you make your closest relationship/emotional ties during (and around) puberty.. which would bear out the chemistry angle)..

I'll see if I can find that study.. I've run out of time right now

05-03-2004, 01:03 PM	#40
cowhead halve your cake and eat it too. Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Georgia.. by way of Lawrence Kansas Posts: 1,359	anyway! Perth, sorry to hear it, long ass story.. (the condesed version) but an old fiance (we almost got married 3 times and lived together for about 7 years) and I are still very very close friends, it took a while to get there.. but once we both let go of the pettty bullsht and remembered that we liked each otther as people in the first place.. all was well and good. (heh, I even catered her wedding) as to the overall topic. I think Men and Women can be just friends, I have know some female friends upwards of 17 years, and yes. at some point there was some physical attraction, but all told we realized that we'd be better off friends.. and still are to this day (although one of them has hit on me on a number of occasions.. usually alcohol related) I'll try to find the link to the study on initial attraction and lasting frendships.. I read it a few years ago and it really answered some questions about brain chemistry, emotions and the strength of friendships that follow. (one study found that you make your closest relationship/emotional ties during (and around) puberty.. which would bear out the chemistry angle).. I'll see if I can find that study.. I've run out of time right now __________________ no my child.. this is not my desire..I'm digging for fire.