What's making you sad today

Pete Zicato · 12-04-2010, 11:17 AM

One of the neighborhood dads (father of a friend of Zing #2) dropped dead from a brain aneurism yesterday. He was 52.

We weren't close friends, but he was a good guy and I always enjoyed talking with him.

footfootfoot · 12-04-2010, 03:36 PM

That sucks. Brain aneurysms are scary. I know of a few people who died of them, it's said you are dead before you hit the ground.

Clodfobble · 12-04-2010, 03:47 PM

Yeah, I had a high school teacher die from one in his sleep. I think he was in his 40s. If you have a family, you should always keep your life insurance current.

Also, keep a glass-shattering tool inside your car, in case you ever go careening into the water.

footfootfoot · 12-04-2010, 05:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Yeah, I had a high school teacher die from one in his sleep. I think he was in his 40s. If you have a family, you should always keep your life insurance current.

Also, keep a glass-shattering tool inside your car, in case you ever go careening into the water.

And one of those seatbelt slicing things.

Griff · 12-04-2010, 06:24 PM

Sorry, PZ.

Pete Zicato · 01-28-2011, 01:49 PM

One of my first cousins died on Wednesday. He was 45.

jimhelm · 12-04-2010, 03:56 PM

and wear clean underwear

Sorry about your neighbor, dar

limey · 01-28-2011, 02:01 PM

Oh it's horrid when your generation starts to go, and so young too! My sympathies, Pete!

Sundae · 01-28-2011, 02:57 PM

Sorry to hear about that Pete.

I worked in a company where two people died of aneurisms about 18 months apart. One wasn't employed by the company but came along to Sports & Social events so we knew him well. Lightning from a blue sky in both cases and it really rattled us.

OnyxCougar · 02-02-2011, 01:49 PM

My whole Plan™ is in jeopardy and I am wondering, "What is the fucking point?" Why am I putting myself through all this stress? Am I going to make it? Do I want to? If I don't do this, then what the hell am I going to do? I'm 40 fucking years old, with my weight, likely well past the mid point of my life, and what?

Even questioning myself and The Plan™ has me upset. Fucking gah.

OnyxCougar · 02-03-2011, 11:27 AM

You know, I'm not as smart as some of the folks here, or as experienced, or knowledgeable. I get that some of my ideas or the things I do might not be popular or even "right". I also understand that posting to a forum on the internet opens one up to ridicule, flame wars, trolls and all sorts of other unpleasantness. But for me, writing has always been a way of sorting things out. A litmus test. When I started lurking here in 2002, I quickly became impressed with quite a few of the folks here...and then I started posting and was accepted into this little "community". Sure, many folks fought like cats and dogs, but I always got the sense that when the chips were down, we were there for each other. Good or bad. Kindof like you yelling at your little brother but if some other kid comes up and starts yelling at your little brother, you beat the snot out of them. That sense of things.

It's been nearly 10 years and I've gone away and returned a few times. Usually, when I've returned, its been because some crazy shit is going down, and I went back to where I felt I could get some feedback. To my community.

But this time is different. I've been noticing that the community feeling...that sense of belonging to something bigger than me but smaller than my little town has evaporated. People who I used to count on for advice or a kind word are now, more often than not, just plain mean and bitchy. There are people who have arrived since I left and when before they would have been "run out of town", not for what they said but how they said it, now they are not just tolerated, but embraced. (I missed Emma, and I think I'm thankful.)

I'm generally not thin-skinned (God knows!) but I think that more lately than ever this community is reflecting more of the world at large instead of being the bastion of decency and good-natured people that I thought we had. I don't know. Maybe the change in me is that I'm not as naive and gullible as I was. Maybe none of you have changed and I'm just interpeting things in new ways.

I'm sad today because I recognize that even if no one else here is changing, I am. I'm not sure the changes have been for the better.

Plus, I think I'm having a midlife crisis anyway. If I've already peaked, I'm in serious fucking trouble.

Pete Zicato · 02-03-2011, 01:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OnyxCougar

I think that more lately than ever this community is reflecting more of the world at large instead of being the bastion of decency and good-natured people that I thought we had.

This.

The world is polarizing. People choose a side and defend everything about that side no matter what. I don't think this is a good thing.

monster · 02-03-2011, 01:28 PM

Most people change with age/maturity. Not always for the better. So for the atmosphere of a place not to change, the people in that place must be replaced by younger models on a regular basis.

Which came first, the cake or the eating it?

plthijinx · 02-09-2011, 10:51 AM

Fax, our cat, died today.

zippyt · 02-09-2011, 10:59 AM

AWWWWW

12-04-2010, 11:17 AM	#1
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	What's making you sad today One of the neighborhood dads (father of a friend of Zing #2) dropped dead from a brain aneurism yesterday. He was 52. We weren't close friends, but he was a good guy and I always enjoyed talking with him. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

12-04-2010, 03:47 PM	#3
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Yeah, I had a high school teacher die from one in his sleep. I think he was in his 40s. If you have a family, you should always keep your life insurance current. Also, keep a glass-shattering tool inside your car, in case you ever go careening into the water. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

12-04-2010, 06:24 PM	#5
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Sorry, PZ. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

01-28-2011, 01:49 PM	#6
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	One of my first cousins died on Wednesday. He was 45. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

12-04-2010, 03:56 PM	#7
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	and wear clean underwear Sorry about your neighbor, dar __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

12-04-2010, 03:36 PM	#2
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	That sucks. Brain aneurysms are scary. I know of a few people who died of them, it's said you are dead before you hit the ground. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

01-28-2011, 02:01 PM	#8
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Oh it's horrid when your generation starts to go, and so young too! My sympathies, Pete! __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

01-28-2011, 02:57 PM	#9
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Sorry to hear about that Pete. I worked in a company where two people died of aneurisms about 18 months apart. One wasn't employed by the company but came along to Sports & Social events so we knew him well. Lightning from a blue sky in both cases and it really rattled us. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-02-2011, 01:49 PM	#10
OnyxCougar Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Kingdom of Atlantia Posts: 2,979	My whole Plan™ is in jeopardy and I am wondering, "What is the fucking point?" Why am I putting myself through all this stress? Am I going to make it? Do I want to? If I don't do this, then what the hell am I going to do? I'm 40 fucking years old, with my weight, likely well past the mid point of my life, and what? Even questioning myself and The Plan™ has me upset. Fucking gah. __________________ Impotentes defendere libertatem non possunt. "Repetition does not transform a lie into a truth." ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

02-03-2011, 11:27 AM	#11
OnyxCougar Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Kingdom of Atlantia Posts: 2,979	You know, I'm not as smart as some of the folks here, or as experienced, or knowledgeable. I get that some of my ideas or the things I do might not be popular or even "right". I also understand that posting to a forum on the internet opens one up to ridicule, flame wars, trolls and all sorts of other unpleasantness. But for me, writing has always been a way of sorting things out. A litmus test. When I started lurking here in 2002, I quickly became impressed with quite a few of the folks here...and then I started posting and was accepted into this little "community". Sure, many folks fought like cats and dogs, but I always got the sense that when the chips were down, we were there for each other. Good or bad. Kindof like you yelling at your little brother but if some other kid comes up and starts yelling at your little brother, you beat the snot out of them. That sense of things. It's been nearly 10 years and I've gone away and returned a few times. Usually, when I've returned, its been because some crazy shit is going down, and I went back to where I felt I could get some feedback. To my community. But this time is different. I've been noticing that the community feeling...that sense of belonging to something bigger than me but smaller than my little town has evaporated. People who I used to count on for advice or a kind word are now, more often than not, just plain mean and bitchy. There are people who have arrived since I left and when before they would have been "run out of town", not for what they said but how they said it, now they are not just tolerated, but embraced. (I missed Emma, and I think I'm thankful.) I'm generally not thin-skinned (God knows!) but I think that more lately than ever this community is reflecting more of the world at large instead of being the bastion of decency and good-natured people that I thought we had. I don't know. Maybe the change in me is that I'm not as naive and gullible as I was. Maybe none of you have changed and I'm just interpeting things in new ways. I'm sad today because I recognize that even if no one else here is changing, I am. I'm not sure the changes have been for the better. Plus, I think I'm having a midlife crisis anyway. If I've already peaked, I'm in serious fucking trouble. __________________ Impotentes defendere libertatem non possunt. "Repetition does not transform a lie into a truth." ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

02-03-2011, 01:28 PM	#13
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Most people change with age/maturity. Not always for the better. So for the atmosphere of a place not to change, the people in that place must be replaced by younger models on a regular basis. Which came first, the cake or the eating it? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2011, 10:51 AM	#14
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	Fax, our cat, died today. __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

02-09-2011, 10:59 AM	#15
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	AWWWWW __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

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