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limey · 01-03-2013, 02:12 AM

Ali, it's good to know that there are parents like you around. That was a really touching post

Sent by thought transference.

Aliantha · 01-03-2013, 05:17 AM

Thanks Limey. It was from the heart. I've been thinking about them a lot lately and how this might very well be the last summer holidays we all get to spend together. This year is Aden's last year of high school, and if he ends up going to uni elsewhere, he'll be getting himself organised and moving away during the next holidays. It makes me a little teary just thinking about it to be honest. I know I need to cut the umbilical cord, but geez, the years go by so quickly.

Actually I tried to explain this to Mav just yesterday. He's crazy in love with his g/f which is fine. she's lovely, and if they end up together forever that'll be fine but as I put it to him, I get him for probably 20 years tops. If they play their cards right and are lucky in their health, they'll have probably 60 or more years together, so right now, if I say I want to be with him, then that's how he has to see it. On top of that, his brother(s) but mostly Aden, miss him a lot when he's off with Katie and I think Aden realises he'll be gone one way or another soon and just wants to do brother stuff with him. They've always been close and they seem to be staying close as they mature which is a joy for me to behold.

Anyway, I think that's enough rum for me tonight. lol I'm a big sook.

limey · 01-03-2013, 05:32 AM

Ali!

Griff · 01-03-2013, 06:31 AM

I feel the same way about my girls Ali.

glatt · 01-03-2013, 08:20 AM

Mine are still both here and I'm savoring this time. It will be over soon enough. Only a few more years and they will be off.

Trilby · 01-03-2013, 08:35 AM

yeah, I'm feeling a bit blue coz the boys are both gone and I didn't have enough time for them when they were little. I worked, went to school, played housewife and drudge to a man who left me at home to take care of two under two while he went to the Dead concerts in Atlanta. So, I missed the best times with them with all my drama.

Now one is in columbus and one in cincinnati. Both v. busy.

And for the first time in a long time I feel the bite of 'alone'.

i'll get over it.

look! The sun is out! for reels!

Aliantha · 01-03-2013, 08:44 AM

Awww...sorry if i dredged sad thoughts up for you Tril. Maybe you should spend some time writing a snail mail letter to each of them telling them in long form what you just said here and tried to make light of? If they're anything like my boys, it will mean the world to them. Xx

Trilby · 01-03-2013, 09:12 AM

that's a good idea, Ali.

And you didn't dredge up bad feelings....they're already there! I've plenty to feel guilty about in the parenting business but both boys turned out stellar, so it's all good.

just it's JANUARY you know? No, you don't coz the sun is shining and it's warm and beautiful in Oz just now. Over here we're freezing our butts off.

Pete Zicato · 01-03-2013, 11:09 AM

Ali - All these things are signs that you have parented well.

Aliantha · 01-03-2013, 06:14 PM

Thanks Pete.

I've tried and failed in some things, but succeeded in others. Just like the rest of us I guess.

Tril, January has always been like this here.

hmmm...where's that cold drink...and my sunscreen...and my hat!

BigV · 01-03-2013, 07:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trilby

just it's JANUARY you know? No, you don't coz the sun is shining and it's warm and beautiful in Oz just now. Over here we're freezing our butts off.

Yabbut...

January means more sunshine every day. It is winter but spring is officially on the way. I actually cast a shadow today during a walk. It was cold but clear. Briefly. Then clouds again now darkness. But less darkness than yesterday.

zippyt · 01-04-2013, 01:44 AM

Ali haveing kids that you like to hang with and enjoy hanging with you is a testament to how they were raised ,

Just wait for the time when you all are sitting around a camp fire with beers and the storys you didnt know about come out .

" oh thats why he wasnt around any more , when does he get out ??"
"Oh so Thats how the hole appeared in the wall "
etc,,,,,,,,,

classicman · 01-06-2013, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

OK, am I the only person in the world who loves it when all my kids are at home and we get to spend an extended amount of time together?

Nope. I too look forward to this all year.

01-03-2013, 02:12 AM	#16
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Ali, it's good to know that there are parents like you around. That was a really touching post Sent by thought transference. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

01-03-2013, 05:17 AM	#17
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Thanks Limey. It was from the heart. I've been thinking about them a lot lately and how this might very well be the last summer holidays we all get to spend together. This year is Aden's last year of high school, and if he ends up going to uni elsewhere, he'll be getting himself organised and moving away during the next holidays. It makes me a little teary just thinking about it to be honest. I know I need to cut the umbilical cord, but geez, the years go by so quickly. Actually I tried to explain this to Mav just yesterday. He's crazy in love with his g/f which is fine. she's lovely, and if they end up together forever that'll be fine but as I put it to him, I get him for probably 20 years tops. If they play their cards right and are lucky in their health, they'll have probably 60 or more years together, so right now, if I say I want to be with him, then that's how he has to see it. On top of that, his brother(s) but mostly Aden, miss him a lot when he's off with Katie and I think Aden realises he'll be gone one way or another soon and just wants to do brother stuff with him. They've always been close and they seem to be staying close as they mature which is a joy for me to behold. Anyway, I think that's enough rum for me tonight. lol I'm a big sook. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

01-03-2013, 05:32 AM	#18
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Ali! __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

01-03-2013, 06:31 AM	#19
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	I feel the same way about my girls Ali. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

01-03-2013, 08:35 AM	#21
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	yeah, I'm feeling a bit blue coz the boys are both gone and I didn't have enough time for them when they were little. I worked, went to school, played housewife and drudge to a man who left me at home to take care of two under two while he went to the Dead concerts in Atlanta. So, I missed the best times with them with all my drama. Now one is in columbus and one in cincinnati. Both v. busy. And for the first time in a long time I feel the bite of 'alone'. i'll get over it. look! The sun is out! for reels! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-03-2013, 08:20 AM	#20
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Mine are still both here and I'm savoring this time. It will be over soon enough. Only a few more years and they will be off.

01-03-2013, 08:44 AM	#22
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Awww...sorry if i dredged sad thoughts up for you Tril. Maybe you should spend some time writing a snail mail letter to each of them telling them in long form what you just said here and tried to make light of? If they're anything like my boys, it will mean the world to them. Xx __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

01-03-2013, 09:12 AM	#23
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	that's a good idea, Ali. And you didn't dredge up bad feelings....they're already there! I've plenty to feel guilty about in the parenting business but both boys turned out stellar, so it's all good. just it's JANUARY you know? No, you don't coz the sun is shining and it's warm and beautiful in Oz just now. Over here we're freezing our butts off. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-03-2013, 11:09 AM	#24
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	Ali - All these things are signs that you have parented well. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

01-03-2013, 06:14 PM	#25
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Thanks Pete. I've tried and failed in some things, but succeeded in others. Just like the rest of us I guess. Tril, January has always been like this here. hmmm...where's that cold drink...and my sunscreen...and my hat! __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

01-04-2013, 01:44 AM	#27
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Ali haveing kids that you like to hang with and enjoy hanging with you is a testament to how they were raised , Just wait for the time when you all are sitting around a camp fire with beers and the storys you didnt know about come out . " oh thats why he wasnt around any more , when does he get out ??" "Oh so Thats how the hole appeared in the wall " etc,,,,,,,,, __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

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