Friday Night Lit

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Originally Posted by zippyt

'Splode , question you said your wife was going out with a friend , how does that work later ??? Uncomfortable silence ??
Or a big hand shake from him saying " Thanks Buddie , I was Needing THAT !!! "

No offence intended , just querious .

None taken, man. No, in all honesty, I feel better about her being with someone I trust, someone who knows how to keep the play separate from the other stuff that makes up a relationship. I know he isn't going to try and posess her, spirit her away. As to uncomfortable silence, nah. Neither will he thank me, I'm sure...although I wouldn't put it past him to say, "Dude, your wife is a wildcat". There's nothing to thank me for. She isn't my property, I'm not "loaning" her out. His relationship with her and hers with him belongs to them, not me.

Yeah, I know...it is a whole different mindset. Trust me, it takes some effort on my part. I mean, I think that I am a fundamentally monogamous person, but even when I've been such, I've cheated - physically, mentally, emotionally - on a few occasions. So really, what is the difference here, except that we are honest with ourselves and with each other about what we want, what we do and would like to do?

I just keep coming back to the same notion...no one person can be everything to any other one person. In our case, our differences are very visceral. Our sexual proclivities, in particular, are vastly different, but we love each other and want to be together. So, do we let unacknowledged desires and unfulfilled notions slowly eat away at our insides until we are hollow, each blaming the other...or do we try something else?

It has been and will be an adventure. And what differentiates an adventure from any other pursuit is the element of doubt, the potenial for danger.