What's upsetting you today? - Page 21

Griff · 08-06-2007, 07:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fargon

I just realized that I am a wimpy assed loser. Rather than call the police I am going to do nothing and save up for a master cylinder for my car. And just let it go, I just don't want any more trouble.

Sounds like me just trying to go along to get along with the edu-crats. I probably should go to a lawyer for damages but I just want to teach.

DanaC · 08-06-2007, 08:03 AM

Shouldn't have to fight so hard just to live your life.

What happened with the edu-crats Griff? I must ha'missed that.

Griff · 08-06-2007, 08:18 AM

I've apparently wasted a year+ of my life following the directions of my certification officer at school. In that year I spent most of my time driving or in classes telling myself it'll all be worth it because I'll have my certification in hand. Now I've been put on a new path to certification and have no idea how it'll turn out.

DanaC · 08-06-2007, 08:56 AM

Oh that sucks, Griff. I hate when the goalposts get shifted on you like that

Griff · 08-06-2007, 09:01 AM

Thanks Dana.

Cloud · 08-06-2007, 09:24 AM

it's Monday.

fargon · 08-06-2007, 09:25 AM

I get to see my Psychiatrist on the 17th of this month, and a new Counselor on the 31st. It has been decided that I am not a threat because I was not trained for "combat". I guess I should have joined the Army.

bigw00dy · 08-06-2007, 12:06 PM

My 21 year old brother(who still lives at home with my mother) is addicted to prescription drugs has now entered his next "phase" of his addiction. He now is stealing money from my mom and two younger sisters!
He is at the point where he can not afford his habbit.

It is like a am watching a live version of Intervention.

It is making me sick ;-( and there is almost nothing I can do to fix his problem.

Me being the oldest sibling, I have always tried to "fix" everything. I feel like my hands are bound.

On a side note.....This is the 1st time in my short 25year existence that I heard my mother cry. .

TheMercenary · 08-06-2007, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigw00dy

My 21 year old brother(who still lives at home with my mother) is addicted to prescription drugs has now entered his next "phase" of his addiction. He now is stealing money from my mom and two younger sisters!
He is at the point where he can not afford his habbit.

It is like a am watching a live version of Intervention.

It is making me sick ;-( and there is almost nothing I can do to fix his problem.

Me being the oldest sibling, I have always tried to "fix" everything. I feel like my hands are bound.

On a side note.....This is the 1st time in my short 25year existence that I heard my mother cry. .

I have seen that situation go from bad to worse. He does need intervention and help at an inpatient facility. Good luck

DanaC · 08-06-2007, 01:31 PM

Woody, that's a horrible situation to be in. I have very little practical advice to offer, but I would perhaps suggest you do a little research into the subject of addiction, seek medical advice on what you as a sibling can/should do to try and support your brother. Do not, however, make yourself responsible for his decisions. You cannot 'fix' this. Nobody can, all you can do is offer support and love, whilst protecting yourself as best you can from the emotional fall out.

Good luck m'dear.

wolf · 08-06-2007, 02:51 PM

The answer is one that your mother will not like and will not follow through on.

Kick his ass out of the house and have him arrested for the thefts.

He loves the drugs more than he does your family.

yesman065 · 08-06-2007, 03:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolf

The answer is one that your mother will not like and will not follow through on.

Kick his ass out of the house and have him arrested for the thefts.

He loves the drugs more than he does your family.

I couldn't bring myself to say it, but I'll agree with it wholeheartedly! Send him packing - period. Tough love!

xoxoxoBruce · 08-06-2007, 03:24 PM

Amen.

bigw00dy · 08-07-2007, 07:04 AM

Wolf, you about summed it up. I know it will take tough love. But I think she is becoming a glutton for punishment. When I talked to her last night, she sounded emotionally drained and was talking as though he learned his 'lesson'. Which I know he has not!

But I guess when your standing in shit, you can't smell it.

I am in the process of emotionally breaking away. I can def. see this type of situation affecting my family; i.e. my wife and kids, and I don't want that to happen. I just need to wash my hands of this situation and come to the realization that my mother is an enabler and I cant controll it.

But it is hard to detach myself, but he is no longer the 'brother' I grew up with

Thanks for listening to me vent!

Griff · 08-07-2007, 07:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigw00dy

I can def. see this type of situation affecting my family; i.e. my wife and kids, and I don't want that to happen. I just need to wash my hands of this situation and come to the realization that my mother is an enabler and I cant controll it.

That is the way to do it. Control what you can control.

08-06-2007, 08:18 AM	#303
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	I've apparently wasted a year+ of my life following the directions of my certification officer at school. In that year I spent most of my time driving or in classes telling myself it'll all be worth it because I'll have my certification in hand. Now I've been put on a new path to certification and have no idea how it'll turn out. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

08-06-2007, 09:01 AM	#305
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Thanks Dana. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

08-06-2007, 09:24 AM	#306
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	it's Monday. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-06-2007, 09:25 AM	#307
fargon Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: La Crosse, WI Posts: 8,924	I get to see my Psychiatrist on the 17th of this month, and a new Counselor on the 31st. It has been decided that I am not a threat because I was not trained for "combat". I guess I should have joined the Army. __________________ Annoy the ones that ignore you!!! I live a blessed life I Love my Country, I Fear the Government!!! Heavily medicated for the good of mankind.

08-06-2007, 12:06 PM	#308
bigw00dy I'm here once in a while Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 458	My 21 year old brother(who still lives at home with my mother) is addicted to prescription drugs has now entered his next "phase" of his addiction. He now is stealing money from my mom and two younger sisters! He is at the point where he can not afford his habbit. It is like a am watching a live version of Intervention. It is making me sick ;-( and there is almost nothing I can do to fix his problem. Me being the oldest sibling, I have always tried to "fix" everything. I feel like my hands are bound. On a side note.....This is the 1st time in my short 25year existence that I heard my mother cry. . __________________ flickr® Last edited by bigw00dy; 08-06-2007 at 12:11 PM.

08-06-2007, 08:03 AM	#302
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Shouldn't have to fight so hard just to live your life. What happened with the edu-crats Griff? I must ha'missed that.

08-06-2007, 08:56 AM	#304
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Oh that sucks, Griff. I hate when the goalposts get shifted on you like that

08-06-2007, 01:31 PM	#310
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Woody, that's a horrible situation to be in. I have very little practical advice to offer, but I would perhaps suggest you do a little research into the subject of addiction, seek medical advice on what you as a sibling can/should do to try and support your brother. Do not, however, make yourself responsible for his decisions. You cannot 'fix' this. Nobody can, all you can do is offer support and love, whilst protecting yourself as best you can from the emotional fall out. Good luck m'dear.

08-06-2007, 02:51 PM	#311
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	The answer is one that your mother will not like and will not follow through on. Kick his ass out of the house and have him arrested for the thefts. He loves the drugs more than he does your family. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

08-06-2007, 03:24 PM	#313
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Amen. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

08-07-2007, 07:04 AM	#314
bigw00dy I'm here once in a while Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 458	Wolf, you about summed it up. I know it will take tough love. But I think she is becoming a glutton for punishment. When I talked to her last night, she sounded emotionally drained and was talking as though he learned his 'lesson'. Which I know he has not! But I guess when your standing in shit, you can't smell it. I am in the process of emotionally breaking away. I can def. see this type of situation affecting my family; i.e. my wife and kids, and I don't want that to happen. I just need to wash my hands of this situation and come to the realization that my mother is an enabler and I cant controll it. But it is hard to detach myself, but he is no longer the 'brother' I grew up with Thanks for listening to me vent! __________________ flickr®

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