Cellar Valentine's Day 2009! - Page 3

Sundae · 02-12-2009, 04:19 PM

Shawnee - bear up.
You are NOT responsible for his hurt. You gave him someone so that he didn't hit rock bottom. He repaid you by hanging around, taking everything offered and no doubt a few other things not offered. He has had plenty of time to sort himself out and to contribute as best he can. Instead he has coasted and taken advantage of you.

He is not you. He does not feel inside himself the same way you do. His acts of kindness are not a caring person reaching out to another in their time of need - his kindnesses are calculated and he charms you in order to allow himself more coasting room.

You'll get over the hurt that you'll feel on his behalf. I promise. Probably slower than any hurt he feels, except self-pity. You gotta face it, like leaving your last job. Get it over with and it will be behind you. Either that or ask him to marry you, because he is not going to move out of his own accord, or start treating you better unless you go into counselling together.

Anyway. That's my advice.

I'm

about Valentines too.
Not because I won't get any cards - I don't expect any and it doesn't bother me this year. I'm very focused on myself right now - in a positive way I hope.

But I didn't send one to my Valentine, and that makes me sad. I honestly forgot. Which is self-focused in a bad way. Still, next year will be better because I can send him a picture of my tight butt. BTW, it's not my Dad.

Shawnee123 · 02-12-2009, 04:31 PM

Thanks, I really needed to hear that, as I'll be going home soon and I need to remember all of that.

You all have helped me so much.

Now...I feel HORRIBLE for ruining Cic's VD thread, and especially after Jim's lovely animation for Jinx.

Oh mods? Can you take all my crap and my dear responses and put them in another thread? Call it, I don't know, How Shawnee Got Her Groove Back.

Please? If it's not too much trouble. I hated that I rained on everyone's VD parade, but it all just kind of went into motion and here I am.
Much love to my friends, I'm so grateful to you.

Sundae · 02-12-2009, 04:36 PM

Don't, mods!
Cic started the thread by calling Valentines Day VD (something I have done myself!) Some of us have commented on our own lack of happiness about the day. It's all part and parcel of the thread.

Happy Valentines will come if they want to.
And after all, if that's all LJ gets Jinx - charmingly handmade as it is - he'll have more to worry about than this thread

footfootfoot · 02-12-2009, 07:22 PM

Kick him in the taco, paco.

Shawnee123 · 02-12-2009, 07:34 PM

lol...that's the wrong 50 ways.

Here is my valentine to all of you. By "internet" I mean "Cellar."

I don't know what's up with the maybe thing...it was already there.

Nirvana · 02-12-2009, 08:05 PM

Well I will check yes! =)

Shawnee123 · 02-12-2009, 08:05 PM

Yay! Got one!

Nirvana · 02-12-2009, 08:34 PM

Here's two!

xoxoxoBruce · 02-13-2009, 02:00 AM

MOAR!

xoxoxoBruce · 02-13-2009, 02:05 AM

4 ways.

02-13-2009, 04:12 AM

Happy Valentine's Day everyone.

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Cicero · 02-13-2009, 04:31 PM

Oooh I have another one for you guys!

Happy Happy!!!

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jinx · 02-13-2009, 08:37 PM

Shawnee123 · 02-13-2009, 08:40 PM

capnhowdy · 02-13-2009, 08:41 PM

Just what we needed. Two whores named Peggy.

Take Note: Peggy has a heart under her hoof er I mean foot.

Happy Valentine's Day to all. I love all, I mean most, Er um well some.. ahem.. you.

02-12-2009, 04:19 PM	#31
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Shawnee - bear up. You are NOT responsible for his hurt. You gave him someone so that he didn't hit rock bottom. He repaid you by hanging around, taking everything offered and no doubt a few other things not offered. He has had plenty of time to sort himself out and to contribute as best he can. Instead he has coasted and taken advantage of you. He is not you. He does not feel inside himself the same way you do. His acts of kindness are not a caring person reaching out to another in their time of need - his kindnesses are calculated and he charms you in order to allow himself more coasting room. You'll get over the hurt that you'll feel on his behalf. I promise. Probably slower than any hurt he feels, except self-pity. You gotta face it, like leaving your last job. Get it over with and it will be behind you. Either that or ask him to marry you, because he is not going to move out of his own accord, or start treating you better unless you go into counselling together. Anyway. That's my advice. I'm about Valentines too. Not because I won't get any cards - I don't expect any and it doesn't bother me this year. I'm very focused on myself right now - in a positive way I hope. But I didn't send one to my Valentine, and that makes me sad. I honestly forgot. Which is self-focused in a bad way. Still, next year will be better because I can send him a picture of my tight butt. BTW, it's not my Dad. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-12-2009, 04:31 PM	#32
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Thanks, I really needed to hear that, as I'll be going home soon and I need to remember all of that. You all have helped me so much. Now...I feel HORRIBLE for ruining Cic's VD thread, and especially after Jim's lovely animation for Jinx. Oh mods? Can you take all my crap and my dear responses and put them in another thread? Call it, I don't know, How Shawnee Got Her Groove Back. Please? If it's not too much trouble. I hated that I rained on everyone's VD parade, but it all just kind of went into motion and here I am. Much love to my friends, I'm so grateful to you. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-12-2009, 04:36 PM	#33
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Don't, mods! Cic started the thread by calling Valentines Day VD (something I have done myself!) Some of us have commented on our own lack of happiness about the day. It's all part and parcel of the thread. Happy Valentines will come if they want to. And after all, if that's all LJ gets Jinx - charmingly handmade as it is - he'll have more to worry about than this thread __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-12-2009, 07:22 PM	#34
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Kick him in the taco, paco. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-12-2009, 07:34 PM	#35
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	lol...that's the wrong 50 ways. Here is my valentine to all of you. By "internet" I mean "Cellar." I don't know what's up with the maybe thing...it was already there. Attached Images __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-12-2009, 08:05 PM	#36
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Well I will check yes! =) __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

02-12-2009, 08:05 PM	#37
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Yay! Got one! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-12-2009, 08:34 PM	#38
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Here's two! Attached Images __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

02-13-2009, 02:00 AM	#39
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	MOAR! Attached Images __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-13-2009, 02:05 AM	#40
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	4 ways. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-13-2009, 04:12 AM	#41
NoBoxes Guest Posts: n/a	Happy Valentine's Day everyone.

02-13-2009, 04:31 PM	#42
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Oooh I have another one for you guys! Happy Happy!!! __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

02-13-2009, 08:37 PM	#43
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Attached Images __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

02-13-2009, 08:40 PM	#44
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Attached Images __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-13-2009, 08:41 PM	#45
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	Just what we needed. Two whores named Peggy. Take Note: Peggy has a heart under her hoof er I mean foot. Happy Valentine's Day to all. I love all, I mean most, Er um well some.. ahem.. you. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

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