What's upsetting you today?

[jimhelm]

I don't know witch of you two is worser

[casimendocina]

Originally Posted by glatt

I'm sick of the bad news, and your joke headlines are funny. I smiled out loud at them. thanks!

I like pretty much all of 3Foot's posts.

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by casimendocina

I like pretty much all of 3Foot's posts.

[DanaC]

Charlie Brooker did a brilliant piece about the news coverage of the earthquake and the possible nuclear meltdown.

Wish it'd hurry up and get posted on youtube :p

[Trilby]

Douche bags.

douche bags masquerading as human.

[morethanpretty]

Now I'm just conflicted. Boyfriend decided he did in fact want to work things out, promised he was 100% sincere. Mom and sis think I should give him another chance. I just don't know if I can feel confident in him again.

[Trilby]

MTP - past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

Listen to your OWN intuition.

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Now I'm just conflicted. Boyfriend decided he did in fact want to work things out, promised he was 100% sincere. Mom and sis think I should give him another chance. I just don't know if I can feel confident in him again.

certainly he should be made to endure some trials and perform some herculean tasks.

get a copy of european fairy tales, the older the collection, the better. Stuff published in the 1800s to the early 1900s is best--before everything got sugar-coated with pc. Read about the guys who had to travel to the 30th kingdom and find the tears of lizard in order to free their princesses from the evil witch. Then compare that to some schlump who comes whinging "wahh take me back, the bartender wouldn't sleep with me..."

don't sell yourself short.

ymmv

[SamIam]

How long have you guys been together, MTP? If you've invested years in the guy, I'd let him back on a strictly probationary basis. If he shapes up, fine. If not, there's lot of other fish in the aquarium.

If you haven't been together that long, cut your losses and show him to the door.

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Mom and sis think I should give him another chance.

Aren't these the same people who think you must marry anyone you have had sex with, regardless of any other qualities they may or may not possess?

Here's what it really boils down to: this guy is not permanent. You know (or at least you should by now) that you will not be spending the rest of your life with him. So if keeping him around for now is fun, and is easier and causes you less stress, then do that. If getting him out of your life makes it easier to focus on your impending surgery and college plans, then do that. But whatever you decide, do it based only on what's best for you, not your mom or your sister or your (ex)boyfriend.

[Aliantha]

Where's the like button?

[Pete Zicato]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Now I'm just conflicted. Boyfriend decided he did in fact want to work things out, promised he was 100% sincere. Mom and sis think I should give him another chance. I just don't know if I can feel confident in him again.

"Trust is a one time only offer."
-- Wolf

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Aren't these the same people who think you must marry anyone you have had sex with, regardless of any other qualities they may or may not possess?

Here's what it really boils down to: this guy is not permanent. You know (or at least you should by now) that you will not be spending the rest of your life with him. So if keeping him around for now is fun, and is easier and causes you less stress, then do that. If getting him out of your life makes it easier to focus on your impending surgery and college plans, then do that. But whatever you decide, do it based only on what's best for you, not your mom or your sister or your (ex)boyfriend.

These are the same people, and although I love them, I do fundamentally disagree with their relationship strategies. They think they only excuse to leave someone is abuse and that love is a choice. 1) It is not the only excuse, 2) sometimes it is, sometimes it is not the basics still have to be there. Sadly, I would already be gone if I felt like I could afford living on my own. I'm trying to get a budget together to figure out how likely that is and I am trying to find roomies I just don't want to live with a complete stranger and don't have a large pool of friends to choose from. I cannot move back in with my parents, that would be worse.
I do truly think he's a good guy, just not the one for me. We are different on an intellectual scale and maturity.

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

I do truly think he's a good guy, just not the one for me. We are different on an intellectual scale and maturity.

We have a winner!

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Sadly, I would already be gone if I felt like I could afford living on my own. I'm trying to get a budget together to figure out how likely that is and I am trying to find roomies I just don't want to live with a complete stranger and don't have a large pool of friends to choose from. I cannot move back in with my parents, that would be worse.
I do truly think he's a good guy, just not the one for me. We are different on an intellectual scale and maturity.

Sounds like it would be worth it to let him stay around, then. Sure, you're kind of using him for rent money, but you'll be giving companionship and presumably sex in return. I doubt he thinks this relationship is headed towards marriage either, so as long as you're both happy enough...