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Shawnee123 · 02-14-2009, 09:20 PM

She was the cutest kid. My aunt and uncle adopted her and her sister when they were very young. I keep picturing playing with them on the swingset in their backyard. She grew up witht he same smile on her face all the time...cutest giggle, a real personable girl.

Thanks for letting me get this out.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-14-2009, 09:24 PM

One of the guys I work with was getting ready to retire, until his 33 year old daughter suddenly left him with two kids 8 and 12. It took me a while to convince him that along with his grief, it was OK to be angry with her for such a selfish act.
He'll eventually cope, but I worry about the kids.

monster · 02-14-2009, 09:26 PM

have you heard how her sister is taking it?

Shawnee123 · 02-14-2009, 09:28 PM

Anger has to come into play. It's one of the stages.

We all grieve differently, but the basic pattern is the same.

I'm angry at this world, for being so hurtful. It makes me wonder if there really is some kind of grand plan, some reason for faith. It answers no questions but resurfaces a lot of old ones.

Shawnee123 · 02-14-2009, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

have you heard how her sister is taking it?

No...all I know right now is what my mom knows and told me on the phone. Nothing.

Her brother is in Korea with his wife and children. Aunt and Uncle just visited there recently.

DanaC · 02-14-2009, 09:34 PM

God, Shawnee, how awful. Praying ain't my thing, but I'm thinking of you and your family.

Shawnee123 · 02-14-2009, 09:35 PM

Thank you Dana.

classicman · 02-15-2009, 12:19 AM

WTF? thats horrible - Since I know most of you don't pray, I will. I'm very sorry for your family's loss.

Shawnee123 · 02-15-2009, 03:32 PM

Thank you classic. That means a lot to me.

There still isn't any real info. She left two kids, about 1 and 4 years old behind.

It was nice to be with my family today: if my little nieces can't cheer someone up no one can.

Shawnee123 · 02-15-2009, 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

Early 30s. They lived in the south, haven't seen her in a couple years. Kids, yeah.

I was wrong about the age. She was only 28.

Sundae · 02-15-2009, 04:38 PM

Just read this Shawnee (came here to moan but won't now)
Really sorry to hear about it.
You have a strong family and you will all support eachother.

Try to leave puzzling out the universe til later in the year. The way you're feeling right now you'll just think it's a shitty place, and that won't help you deal with this any better.

My thoughts are with you x

Aliantha · 02-15-2009, 04:40 PM

I'm sorry too Shawnee. I hope that things become clearer for all of you very soon.

My thoughts are with you also.

Shawnee123 · 02-15-2009, 04:42 PM

Thanks hons.

Please don't let me stop any moaning. I"ve moaned so much here over the years I would expect moaning...you don't moan anyway, silly girl.

Thanks so much for the support.

capnhowdy · 02-15-2009, 04:46 PM

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Chocolatl · 02-15-2009, 04:51 PM

Peace and best wishes, Shawnee.

02-14-2009, 09:20 PM	#3301
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	She was the cutest kid. My aunt and uncle adopted her and her sister when they were very young. I keep picturing playing with them on the swingset in their backyard. She grew up witht he same smile on her face all the time...cutest giggle, a real personable girl. Thanks for letting me get this out. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-14-2009, 09:24 PM	#3302
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	One of the guys I work with was getting ready to retire, until his 33 year old daughter suddenly left him with two kids 8 and 12. It took me a while to convince him that along with his grief, it was OK to be angry with her for such a selfish act. He'll eventually cope, but I worry about the kids. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-14-2009, 09:26 PM	#3303
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	have you heard how her sister is taking it? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-14-2009, 09:28 PM	#3304
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Anger has to come into play. It's one of the stages. We all grieve differently, but the basic pattern is the same. I'm angry at this world, for being so hurtful. It makes me wonder if there really is some kind of grand plan, some reason for faith. It answers no questions but resurfaces a lot of old ones. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-14-2009, 09:35 PM	#3307
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Thank you Dana. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-14-2009, 09:34 PM	#3306
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	God, Shawnee, how awful. Praying ain't my thing, but I'm thinking of you and your family.

02-15-2009, 12:19 AM	#3308
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	WTF? thats horrible - Since I know most of you don't pray, I will. I'm very sorry for your family's loss. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

02-15-2009, 03:32 PM	#3309
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Thank you classic. That means a lot to me. There still isn't any real info. She left two kids, about 1 and 4 years old behind. It was nice to be with my family today: if my little nieces can't cheer someone up no one can. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-15-2009, 04:38 PM	#3311
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Just read this Shawnee (came here to moan but won't now) Really sorry to hear about it. You have a strong family and you will all support eachother. Try to leave puzzling out the universe til later in the year. The way you're feeling right now you'll just think it's a shitty place, and that won't help you deal with this any better. My thoughts are with you x __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-15-2009, 04:40 PM	#3312
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'm sorry too Shawnee. I hope that things become clearer for all of you very soon. My thoughts are with you also. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-15-2009, 04:42 PM	#3313
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Thanks hons. Please don't let me stop any moaning. I"ve moaned so much here over the years I would expect moaning...you don't moan anyway, silly girl. Thanks so much for the support. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-15-2009, 04:46 PM	#3314
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

02-15-2009, 04:51 PM	#3315
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	Peace and best wishes, Shawnee.

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