What's upsetting you today? - Page 39

Shawnee123 · 09-21-2007, 03:57 PM

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Shawnee123 · 09-21-2007, 03:57 PM

We posted simultaneously! Go back a page for mine!

glatt · 09-21-2007, 04:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Griff

a rabbit is staring at me through the screen door

Eerie.

xoxoxoBruce · 09-22-2007, 07:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Griff

We will travel in pairs for a while. Two go out one comes back.

Don't be the one wearing the red shirt.

BigV · 09-22-2007, 11:45 PM

funny!

"bummer of a birghmark, hal"

Clodfobble · 09-23-2007, 02:58 PM

Supremely crappy ass weekend. Have to call the doctor tomorrow about some very worrisome things. We'll see, I guess.

monster · 09-23-2007, 04:34 PM

eek. all the best with that....

PointsOfLight · 09-23-2007, 06:29 PM

i started college last week and i still have no friends.

laaaaammmme.

DanaC · 09-23-2007, 06:34 PM

PoL, that isn't lame. It isn't aways an immediate thing when you first go to college. Are you living on campus?

PointsOfLight · 09-23-2007, 06:42 PM

Yes I'm living on campus. It's a really hard transition. It's hard to just put yourself out there and meet people...mainly because I'm pretty shy.

DanaC · 09-23-2007, 06:54 PM

Y'know PoL, that's the experience of a lot of students when they first go to college. Probably more students find that first transition hard than don't.

Whenever you hear tales of college life it seems like one big party and big gangs of mates. But that takes time, and for most kids the first few weeks are a serious adjustment. It's harder to relax and make friends if you aren't even on familiar ground: but the unfamiliar becomes the familiar pretty quickly.

Your classes and any extra-curricular stuff you get involved in will bring you into contact with people and at some point you'll find you've slipped into a group with a bunch of others.

But don't give yourself a hard time over it. There's nothing lame about it at all, you're doing something that most people would find daunting.

PointsOfLight · 09-23-2007, 07:08 PM

Yeah your probably right. It's hard going from high school where you are really close with a few people and you feel comfortable with those people and then suddenly they just move away and you have to make completely new friends.
You're right though, I just need to give it some time.
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.

piercehawkeye45 · 09-23-2007, 11:59 PM

Points, just try to talk to as many people as possible. If there is someone sitting next to you in class, strike up a conversation. Nine times out of ten nothing will happen but there is a very good possibility you that your new really good friends will be people you just randomly meet.

I was very shy in high school and can still be when I'm in a depressed mood. Just practice with conversation skills and watch what other charismatic people do and try to copy that, within reason. It is much easier to make friends if you show confidence and don't talk in a monotone voice. It will take a while but it helps a lot.

Dana is right too, it took me until late March my freshman year to find a group of people that I really connected with. I met them by being dragged to a party by my roommate who I hated and meeting someone I met randomly earlier that year and met his friends who needed a bassist for a band and we've been friends since.

SteveDallas · 09-24-2007, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by piercehawkeye45

Points, just try to talk to as many people as possible. If there is someone sitting next to you in class, strike up a conversation.

That's easy for you extroverts to say!!!

Anyway.. what's upsetting me? I've lost a filling. The tooth hurts like hell. It appears I'm going to have to see a dentist. (I was hoping nuclear war, or bird flu, or a helpful public transit bus would take care of me before it became necessary.)

piercehawkeye45 · 09-24-2007, 03:51 PM

What makes you think I'm an extrovert?

Forcing myself to talk to someone or go to a social gathering is what helped give me confidence.

09-21-2007, 03:57 PM	#571
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	another night of the lepus? . __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby Last edited by Shawnee123; 09-25-2007 at 12:48 PM.

09-21-2007, 03:57 PM	#572
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	We posted simultaneously! Go back a page for mine! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

09-22-2007, 11:45 PM	#575
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	funny! "bummer of a birghmark, hal" __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

09-23-2007, 04:34 PM	#577
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	eek. all the best with that.... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

09-23-2007, 02:58 PM	#576
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Supremely crappy ass weekend. Have to call the doctor tomorrow about some very worrisome things. We'll see, I guess.

09-23-2007, 06:29 PM	#578
PointsOfLight learner of things Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 39	i started college last week and i still have no friends. laaaaammmme.

09-23-2007, 06:34 PM	#579
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	PoL, that isn't lame. It isn't aways an immediate thing when you first go to college. Are you living on campus?

09-23-2007, 06:42 PM	#580
PointsOfLight learner of things Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 39	Yes I'm living on campus. It's a really hard transition. It's hard to just put yourself out there and meet people...mainly because I'm pretty shy.

09-23-2007, 06:54 PM	#581
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Y'know PoL, that's the experience of a lot of students when they first go to college. Probably more students find that first transition hard than don't. Whenever you hear tales of college life it seems like one big party and big gangs of mates. But that takes time, and for most kids the first few weeks are a serious adjustment. It's harder to relax and make friends if you aren't even on familiar ground: but the unfamiliar becomes the familiar pretty quickly. Your classes and any extra-curricular stuff you get involved in will bring you into contact with people and at some point you'll find you've slipped into a group with a bunch of others. But don't give yourself a hard time over it. There's nothing lame about it at all, you're doing something that most people would find daunting.

09-23-2007, 07:08 PM	#582
PointsOfLight learner of things Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 39	Yeah your probably right. It's hard going from high school where you are really close with a few people and you feel comfortable with those people and then suddenly they just move away and you have to make completely new friends. You're right though, I just need to give it some time. Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.

09-23-2007, 11:59 PM	#583
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	Points, just try to talk to as many people as possible. If there is someone sitting next to you in class, strike up a conversation. Nine times out of ten nothing will happen but there is a very good possibility you that your new really good friends will be people you just randomly meet. I was very shy in high school and can still be when I'm in a depressed mood. Just practice with conversation skills and watch what other charismatic people do and try to copy that, within reason. It is much easier to make friends if you show confidence and don't talk in a monotone voice. It will take a while but it helps a lot. Dana is right too, it took me until late March my freshman year to find a group of people that I really connected with. I met them by being dragged to a party by my roommate who I hated and meeting someone I met randomly earlier that year and met his friends who needed a bassist for a band and we've been friends since.

09-24-2007, 03:51 PM	#585
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	What makes you think I'm an extrovert? Forcing myself to talk to someone or go to a social gathering is what helped give me confidence.

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