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Old 01-05-2011, 03:35 PM   #736
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Thanks Stormie, I saved that.
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Old 01-05-2011, 04:33 PM   #737
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The best thing to do is talk to the produce guy at your grocery store. You ought to be able to get a feel for how seriously they take the process of vetting their organic suppliers. For example, one of our produce sources is a kind of enhanced CSA (we are given a certain amount of flexibility in what we want to order from the local farms each week, it's not completely on the whims of what's available.) A lot of the stuff they include isn't actually certified organic, because the process to get certified is suprisingly expensive. But this thing is run by a bunch of dedicated hippies who have personally visited each farm they source from, and confirmed for themselves that organic practices are in use even if the certification isn't in place yet. Likewise, they have refused farmers who are certified, but have other practices the hippies disagree with for one reason or another. I have decided I trust these people with my food, and certifications don't have to enter into it.
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Old 01-05-2011, 06:21 PM   #738
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Ha...I like your store. My store employs stupid 20yr olds. Its a waste of time to ask them any question.

ETA: Ummm, not all 20 yr olds are stupid, like most the ones that post here.
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Old 01-06-2011, 10:37 AM   #739
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Clod, it is shit like this that pisses me right the fuck off.

If we aren't TOLD what is in a product, how can we avoid it??

I am SO pissed off right now!!
This is bad news for me. Nutrasweet/aspartame makes me violently ill. I wonder if it will affect me after it's filtered through a cow.
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Old 01-06-2011, 07:06 PM   #740
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I can't drink too much aspartame either. My son has no problems with it though, but he can't have too much sugar. He monitors that pretty closely. He also has the gift of being able to stay up all night on a diet coke. ( gift = sarcasm ) I just wish it worked like that for me.
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Old 03-19-2011, 09:34 AM   #741
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I have to write a Social Story for Tiger this week (my homework)
Searching the internet for examples - yes, I'm struggling.
Then I thought to search the Cellar and of course this thread came up.

Hurray for the Cellar!
Still struggling though.
His autism-spectrum diagnosis is generally accepted but not medically/ officially confirmed. His "Statement" is mostly about speech and language issues, although it does touch on food and social skills. But he's certainly "high functioning".

So the suggestions made by his Speech Therapist aren't completely appropriate. I'm going to try to talk to Mrs P (teacher) before next Thursday (next appointment) because I know she's familiar with both Social Stories and the cub.

This is all about giving me a toolbox of skills for when they cut his hours with the ST so I need to understand this, as opposed to getting it right once and getting a pat on the back.
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Old 03-19-2011, 09:41 AM   #742
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When social stories are done right, they're awesome. Most of them suck. See PM...
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Old 03-19-2011, 09:49 AM   #743
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Old 03-19-2011, 09:52 AM   #744
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Sundae, I'd limit the story to one situation at a time. I haven't done a lot with them but we have one successful bathrooming story in place right now. The child didn't feel safe using bathrooms away from home, so the story keeps coming back to "I'm safe".
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Old 03-19-2011, 10:02 AM   #745
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Griff, part of my trouble is coming up with an appropriate story.
Tiger doesn't seem to fit into the right boxes.
I'm not criticising the idea, or the system, it's just the stories I've read are all over the place. That's a technical term.

Clod sez some of those on the web aren't the best examples.
She's going to email me some that worked.
When I have a good example, I'm sure I'll be able to apply the idea better.
I will become A Teller of Stories.

Thanks for your input.
I really shouldn't have wasted half a day "out there", I should have started at home.
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Old 03-19-2011, 10:24 AM   #746
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We mostly only used them to help him know what to expect in a new situation, rather than to teach a specific skill. But either way, most generic ones are just bad cartoons and imperative statements, and that ain't gonna cut it.
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Old 03-22-2011, 04:41 PM   #747
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The school Special Educational Needs and Disabilities Co-ordinator had a scheduled meeting with me today.
To help me with the Social Story and have a general catch up.
She came into the classroom, took away the instructions I'd been given AND the draft copy of the Story I'd written, and said she's get back to me tomorrow.
I had actually asked for her help, not a critique, I'll get that off the Speech Therapist on Thursday.

The SENDCO hasn't even looked at the notes I keep on the Tiger. No-one has. I could be writing down any old shit. "Tiger was happy today! It was all, like, double rainbows! Yay! I'm not sorry about his finger!"

Clod, you helped me realise it was about learning to use the format, not immediately coming up with a necessary Social Story. Because at present I'm not sure that's up to me. Although you'll see that given the above, I am ambivilant as to where the boundaries are drawn.

Mrs P just read the exmaple and nodded and said (sounding dubious to me) "Okaaaaay."
But what can I do?

I love my job.
I love the school.
This is a challenge and I will overcome it.
Just as a minor moan, I kinda wish I'd been able to come into this without being known to the staff (apart from the fact I wouldn't have the job!)
I feel I've been dunked a little bit.
No spare time to interact with the teacher/ TAs unless I start before they do - and that is their downtime before the day starts anyway. And no real time for questions/ discussions except my halfhour lunch, which would be fine by me - except shovelling in food - but given their other commitments, not really fair on them.

I get a detailed timetable every day, but usually my 1:1 time with Tiger is up to me.
Sometimes it's hard to gauge what time will be least distracting for him/ will make him most amenable. The class timetable is scheduled so group work/ reading and choosing time is split evenly. I have to shoehorn in time with the cub and still ensure he enjoys the sessions.

Good news there though. He has now started approaching me asking if we are working together. I think this might be because he does enjoy our sessions. I've made them as sensory as possible. And of course he appreciates routine. Sadly, I had to make some time up the other week because I was ill (well, I volunteered to) and he became used to me being available in the afternoons. Only one week, but it grieves me that he is now asking after lunch whether we will work together...

Anyway.
This all sounds like MOAN, MOAN, MOAN.
Maybe it is.
but maybe everyone needs a moan now and then.
This is something I am delighted to be working on, and I know it could never be a journey of a single step.
Everyone is friendly and would probably be horrified to know I'm probably not as secure as I appear.
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Old 03-22-2011, 04:46 PM   #748
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SG, no-one (and I do mean no-one) is as secure as they appear. Remember that.
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Old 03-22-2011, 05:35 PM   #749
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I will become A Teller of Stories.

Thanks for your input.
I really shouldn't have wasted half a day "out there", I should have started at home.

I agree with you! You are a great story teller.

Social stories are short, concrete,relevant.

They can be about sharing, helping, saying please, a specific feeling, waiting in line at lunch, what do do when the bell rings, being quiet in the library, any any thing you think is will apply to his situation.
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Old 03-22-2011, 05:53 PM   #750
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This website has some examples. I find them too wordy but this one has great photos. It does state this is for an older verbal child. You could modify it, take the references to the other motorized objects out and just put labels or one short sentence.
http://www.child-autism-parent-cafe....restrooms.html


I like these. They are basic and you can tweak them.
http://www.polyxo.com/socialstories/
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