What's upsetting you today?

[DanaC]

Plus...no shortage of entertaining bones to chew...

[Trilby]

I am such a goddamn FOOOL that I should be shot immediately (after given sufficient morphine).

Remember Professor Tiny Bits? well-got over him. Years ago. Feeling good, livin' life, making a life for myself, gave up his drama and yes-but-no-but-maybe.

Well, a few weeks ago HE emailed me OUT OF THE BLUE to say thank you for winning the White House for Obama (he's one of those rich liberals who, if he HAD to walk amongst the hoi polloi, would die of the stench, dahling) anyway- he said, "Let's be friends," and I STUPIDLY SAID OKAY. Knowing he was seeing/or saw a woman in England only 15 years his junior instead of my 21 years. And all I know of her is that she is a prof. at UEL and "will do anything" - use your dirty imaginations.

well, I wrote him a very vanilla email a few days ago (about a month after he'd first contacted me) about my 'rents, kids and how are his grandkids-one of which I've never seen. Asked him to send me a pic of her. thanks! have a good day!

TODAY i get an email telling me he'd like to go into more but it's hellish you see as his marriage has reached 'a crisis point' ----more later.

dumbdumbdumbdumbdumb I am so DMB! I am SO FUCKING DUMB. It's amazing I've managed to stay alive this long-most of my tribe threw themselves from stormy cliffs into the sea at age 14. geeeeeeeeeSUS.

He ONLY contacted me so he could triangulate this thing into some sort of -what, help me here Zen, what? a square? a four-sided relationship? Or am I "x" to their triangle? What the FUCK does he need a 'friend' for when he's got plenty except to taunt me with this 'crisis' bullshit which I am SURE involves some woman who is prettier, brighter, more accomplished, manicured, Chanel-ed and perfect in every way including her perfect, perfect cunt.

GODDDDDDDDDDDAMN.


Good thing I see my therapist tomorrow. I feel like drinking a gallon of rum at this asshole.

[Trilby]

I should email him this:

You, sir, are an asshole. I hope she gets it all. As a matter of fact, I shall contact your wife and let her know I will be able to testify on her behalf if it comes to that. I kept all our correspondences and all your gifts throughout the years we were together. I shall also inform her of your pornography problem. The one where your favorite porn star looks disturbingly like your daughter.

Love, Trilby

[Lola Bunny]

Tril, please don't call yourself dumb because that will make me a dummy too. What you did was normal. He was just being an ass, and you were just being nice. Now that you see his scheme, ignore him again. Frankly, what you did is something I'd do too. I would like to see that as being a nice person. Now is the time to stop being nice to him since his friendship wasn't sincere. Please don't drink as a punishment. It should only be done in festivities. ( but for you, really, please don't. :p )

[glatt]

Trilby, you don't sound dumb to me. You sound like someone who knows EXACTLY what is going on. You're sharp.

[orthodoc]

Tril, don't beat yourself up. You've caught his triangulation early and can blow him off now. Yeah, it's so easy to be nice to these assholes who only get in touch because a) they're having a slow weekend; b) they need just a little more drama with which to berate their current SO; c) they want to test how much control they still have of your non-relationship and how easy it is to pull you back in.

They send out something nice, you respond in kind, and then the lash comes out of nowhere. Nice game.

It doesn't say anything about you, who are a good-hearted, generous person. It says everything about HIM. Don't buy into the rest of the game, which is aimed at making you squirm and feel bad and upset. If you just block him and don't respond, he may try pretty hard to get back in touch one more time just to prove to himself that he can reel you in whenever he wants. You can have the satisfaction of letting him fail on that one. Although I know how tempting it is to respond. (I admit, I rather like your theoretical email.)

Just ... block him. He's not worth a single moment of your precious time. He's also not worth a single oz of rum. You're waayyy above his narcissistic games.
Flowers to you.

[DanaC]

Tril: Do Not call yourself dumb to this man. Don't hand to him on a plate solid evidence of his ability to make you feel inferior.

Step away from this one. That email tells him he is your weakness.

[Sundae]

No post from Limey today.
Silly bloody postal service.

Tril don't be a plum.
You got over this man once. Second time is easier. I know. I attracted serial bastards.
He's a hit & run merchant. He's hit, now you run for the bloody hills.

[Trilby]

all sage and good advice. I thank ye.

It IS easier the second time.

Uck-fay Im-hay. No more correspondences. He's only playing a game coz he's nearing (gasp) 69!!!!!!

But I was a maroon for thinking he was sincere.


eta: I emailed 'are you leaving her for that woman in England?" and he emailed back "in limbo right now but moving in that direction" -and that was all.

DONE. My heart has been broken more times than I thought could be humanly possible.

Now I'm off to look for my TRUE soulmate- Gollum.

[BigV]

You must really want a ring.

[SamIam]

Originally Posted by Trilby

Good thing I see my therapist tomorrow. I feel like drinking a gallon of rum at this asshole.

As they say, drinking "at" someone is like drinking a vial of poison at your enemy and expecting THEM to fall over dead. But you know that already. In the face of such problems, I like smashing dishes.

Hang tough, girl.

[BigV]

I should also say that I thought the phrase "I feel like drinking a gallon of rum at this asshole." was extremely evocative and self-aware.

I'm certain you won't especially given how you expressed it. But I definitely get the feeling you convey when you say it like that. whoa.

[footfootfoot]

Tril, as others said, you caught it early and now is the time to change the station.

From now on repeat this mantra:

"What the fuck does this asshole want?" Then just hit delete or hang up or keep walking.

As a friend says, don't rent space to him in your mind.

[infinite monkey]

Originally Posted by SamIam

As they say, drinking "at" someone is like drinking a vial of poison at your enemy and expecting THEM to fall over dead. But you know that already. In the face of such problems, I like smashing dishes.

Hang tough, girl.

Well crap. Shouldn't have bought all that Corelle.

An old cow orker gave me all her stoneware because she wanted Corelle for its lightness and break resistance. It's beautiful, with big sunflowers and dark greens, almost Van Gogh-ish. It does have chips and lines of breakage but I think it has character. It's ripply dipply pipply, and a smarsh at the games of frickle-frack and mushgoons.

[glatt]

I love stoneware like that.