What's upsetting you today? - Page 672

Aliantha · 10-29-2014, 09:25 AM

Well, it could have been worse. I could walk around with my eyes and ears closed like everyone else here while they eat all the available timber. :/ the good news is, i cant hear them munching anymore, so hopefully they are all dead.

glatt · 10-29-2014, 09:53 AM

It's a common point of conflict between people, I think.

You see work that has to be done, and the others don't.

From their perspective, you are creating work where none exists, and from your perspective, they are a bunch of lazy good for nothing slugs.

They have the power in this situation, because the unfinished work drives you crazy and you wind up doing it yourself. They don't have to do anything and the situation resolves itself.

If you want change, you need to help them to see that the work is real, so they see the need for it to be done, and then you need to tell them you won't take care of it. That it's their turn. And then you have to do nothing.

It's the classic StacyV and Arsen cleaning standoff. Except you need to communicate effectively so it doesn't get bad. It may or may not work, depending on how stubborn you all are.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-29-2014, 10:48 AM

Maybe your world view is primarily the house, since you live and work there, so things you think should be done there rate a high priority. Someone with a larger world view, may have different priorities.

Aliantha · 10-29-2014, 05:05 PM

The other person responsible brobably thinks he has a larger world view.

Gravdigr · 11-06-2014, 06:33 PM

Heh...

Sundae · 11-06-2014, 10:00 PM

Out of rehab. Not by choice.
As low as is possible to be.

If you have my number; call me.
I don't know it and am too chaotic to look.

Aliantha · 11-07-2014, 06:17 AM

Did they kick you out?

glatt · 11-07-2014, 08:15 AM

I'm sorry Sundae!

Check in when you can, and tell us what's going on.

BigV · 11-07-2014, 12:12 PM

!!!!!!!

what the heck?

I *don't* have the number, but I'm very interested to know what's going on with you Sundae, please hang in there.

Gravdigr · 11-07-2014, 03:57 PM

Popdigr gave away my great-great-great-grandfather's eyeglasses. Yes, the gold-rimmed ones, with the silver case.

glatt · 11-07-2014, 06:39 PM

Why did he go and do that?

Gravdigr · 11-08-2014, 12:58 PM

Beats the shit outta me.

Now I'm pissed again. But, they're his to give away, I have no say in the matter.

I would like to have had them after he was gone, though.

orthodoc · 11-08-2014, 01:41 PM

Please let us know how you're doing, Sundae.

Aliantha · 11-08-2014, 11:08 PM

Grav, my Nana did that. Started giving stuff away to whoever she thought might like it. some people got pretty annoyed at the unequal distribution of goods. haha

My Aunt is doing the same thing, although mostly it's to me and my cousin (her daughter). She thinks she might die, so she keeps saying she's trying to sort everything out and get it cleaned up so we don't have to do it when she's gone.

I think a lot of older people do stuff like that. Seems pretty common. No less annoying if it's something special to you though. Perhaps it's time to mention the things you'd like him not to give away because they're significant to you, even if they have no monetary value.

monster · 11-08-2014, 11:17 PM

lesson is, peeps, if an object has special memories/whatever for you, share those memories with other people who might also enjoy/appreciate them. Not dissin' on you grv, just trying to turn it to a positive as best I can. And learning the lesson myself, I hope

10-29-2014, 09:25 AM	#10066
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Well, it could have been worse. I could walk around with my eyes and ears closed like everyone else here while they eat all the available timber. :/ the good news is, i cant hear them munching anymore, so hopefully they are all dead. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-29-2014, 10:48 AM	#10068
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Maybe your world view is primarily the house, since you live and work there, so things you think should be done there rate a high priority. Someone with a larger world view, may have different priorities. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-29-2014, 05:05 PM	#10069
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	The other person responsible brobably thinks he has a larger world view. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-06-2014, 06:33 PM	#10070
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Heh... __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-07-2014, 06:17 AM	#10072
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Did they kick you out? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-29-2014, 09:53 AM	#10067
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	It's a common point of conflict between people, I think. You see work that has to be done, and the others don't. From their perspective, you are creating work where none exists, and from your perspective, they are a bunch of lazy good for nothing slugs. They have the power in this situation, because the unfinished work drives you crazy and you wind up doing it yourself. They don't have to do anything and the situation resolves itself. If you want change, you need to help them to see that the work is real, so they see the need for it to be done, and then you need to tell them you won't take care of it. That it's their turn. And then you have to do nothing. It's the classic StacyV and Arsen cleaning standoff. Except you need to communicate effectively so it doesn't get bad. It may or may not work, depending on how stubborn you all are.

11-06-2014, 10:00 PM	#10071
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Out of rehab. Not by choice. As low as is possible to be. If you have my number; call me. I don't know it and am too chaotic to look.

11-07-2014, 08:15 AM	#10073
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I'm sorry Sundae! Check in when you can, and tell us what's going on.

11-07-2014, 12:12 PM	#10074
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	!!!!!!! what the heck? I don't have the number, but I'm very interested to know what's going on with you Sundae, please hang in there. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

11-07-2014, 03:57 PM	#10075
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Popdigr gave away my great-great-great-grandfather's eyeglasses. Yes, the gold-rimmed ones, with the silver case. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-07-2014, 06:39 PM	#10076
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Why did he go and do that?

11-08-2014, 12:58 PM	#10077
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Beats the shit outta me. Now I'm pissed again. But, they're his to give away, I have no say in the matter. I would like to have had them after he was gone, though. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-08-2014, 01:41 PM	#10078
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Please let us know how you're doing, Sundae. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

11-08-2014, 11:08 PM	#10079
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Grav, my Nana did that. Started giving stuff away to whoever she thought might like it. some people got pretty annoyed at the unequal distribution of goods. haha My Aunt is doing the same thing, although mostly it's to me and my cousin (her daughter). She thinks she might die, so she keeps saying she's trying to sort everything out and get it cleaned up so we don't have to do it when she's gone. I think a lot of older people do stuff like that. Seems pretty common. No less annoying if it's something special to you though. Perhaps it's time to mention the things you'd like him not to give away because they're significant to you, even if they have no monetary value. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-08-2014, 11:17 PM	#10080
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	lesson is, peeps, if an object has special memories/whatever for you, share those memories with other people who might also enjoy/appreciate them. Not dissin' on you grv, just trying to turn it to a positive as best I can. And learning the lesson myself, I hope __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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