What's upsetting you today? - Page 74

monster · 11-18-2007, 08:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Mid-afternoon HM said he was cooking a roast this evening if I was interested.
I hemmed and hawwed and realised the size of the roasts in the freezer he must already have started defrosting and there would be a right waste if I said no now, and also he probably felt he was treating me.

Well I had already decided to restrict my diet today after having loaded nachos last night. Was going to have smoked salmon offcuts (+cheap) with cracked wheat and raw veg. And tomorrow!

Anyway, I said yes and feigned enthusiam. But it's about four hours since. He hasn't asked how much I want re potatoes or any roast veg. I've already said in conversation I like my lamb pink. I said I'd have a small roast but no indication he hasn't already started the veg (I hope so, he knows I eat before 19.00 preferably).

I'm sorry - I come across as the bitch queen from hell, but I like to know what's coming. I'll be very grateful to his face - and indeed I am - I'd just have preferred some consultation.

Sorry again for venting - I kow I am lucky.

You're over-analyzing and internalizing too much.

1) go look in the kitchen to see what's going on
2) ask him where he's up to -it's not rude. You could even ask if you can help.
3) what waste? roast meat makes great sandwiches and these days there's a marvelous invention for leftovers call the microwave...
4) You want him to ask you how much you will eat? I'd consider that rude, if he is cooking for you as his guest. ..... just an extra tuppenceworth there.
5) I would not expect my guest to dictate meal times, meat rareness or portion control. Why do you expect to?

You don't seem yourself tonight. SG, are you OK?

hope it all went well.

Sundae · 11-19-2007, 04:01 AM

Nah, I've been really really low these last few days. Unable to sleep, finding basic tasks difficult, hating myself - so I was probably projecting some of that on him.

In my defence, I always ask a guest before a roast how many potatoes they want (and add two over), whether they want parsnips, roast onions. I ate to serve up a huge pile of food and have someone pick off one slice of meat and two carrots.

The time issue is simply that - I eat early, he eats late. Originally it was going to be 18.30. We ate at 19.45. Not a problem really, but as a twitchily punctual person I got jumpy.

It all worked out fine of course - the meat wasn't rare but it was very tender and the gravy covered the fact the veg were lukewarm. I'm sure he ate what I didn't afterwards.

I'm going to the doctors on an unrelated issue today, I'll tell him about my downswing. I'm sure it's all part & parcel though. Got a new gym class today (Reebok Deck?!) that might time me out enough to stop whining.

Aliantha · 11-19-2007, 05:19 AM

grandmother died this afternoon. We're going to Sydney tomorrow morning.

Sundae · 11-19-2007, 05:21 AM

Sorry for Dazza's loss
Hope it goes as well as it can

DucksNuts · 11-19-2007, 05:24 AM

Is reebok deck like a step class, SG?

Hormones getting you down maybe?

I would expect HM to ask you are vegies and portion...especially since he knows you are dieting.

I love RPM or Spin classes and *Stomp*....cross between Step and Pump (weights)

Aliantha · 11-19-2007, 05:30 AM

Thanks SG. You're a doll.

Perry Winkle · 11-19-2007, 08:21 AM

My grandpa fell and broke 6 ribs.

For the last few years he's been going downhill pretty steadily. . .And I'm not going to be able to see him for at least 13 months. That's optimistic, too.

Sundae · 11-19-2007, 08:32 AM

Yes Ducks, it was a very low grade step class - cardio to start as the warm up, then step, then resistance using bands. I found it very hard, especially the step and there were two exercises I couldn't do in resistance. So I'm going next week. Went to the gym as well - have my re-assessment tomorrow. HM says I wouldn't have been able to complete today's class 6 weeks ago. I just see what I can't do as usual. It's a long road.

Perry sorry to hear about your Granfather - 6 ribs is pretty spectacular. When my Grandad started to fall it sudenly became a common occurrence BUT it lead to him being diagnosed with Parkinson's and having his home fitted out for extra safety and balance. His falls got far less frequent.

All I can say is I know it's scary when your older relatives give you an inkling they won't be around forever - just stay in touch any way you can so you have nothing to regret just in case. I'm sure you'll be back to see him soon enough.

zippyt · 11-19-2007, 09:16 AM

Ali , sorry to hear of ya'll loss , I KNOW its a relief though ( for it to be over that is )

SG , let him cook what he wants ,
you eat what you want , ( if he whines you can tell him you are trying to diet )
smack your lips and tell him him GOOD it was ,
Then offer him a low cal desert

TheMercenary · 11-19-2007, 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

grandmother died this afternoon. We're going to Sydney tomorrow morning.

Total bummer, sorry for your loss.. could have been a blessing.

Chocolatl · 11-19-2007, 12:29 PM

Sorry to hear about Dazza's gran, Ali. Best wishes to him and his family.

DanaC · 11-19-2007, 12:50 PM

Sorry to hear about Dazza's loss, Ali. Also sorry to hear bout your Grandpa, Perry. Must feel worse being so far away. *hugs*

I have a good news update on my friend. She was discharged from hospital this afternoon and is now ensconced in her armchair at home. I'm just on my way down to see her now, actually. Glad she wasn't in longer, it's exactly the kind of thing that her political enemies would make a meal out of.....with sugared tones of concern obviously.
Still....she's out, she sounds a damn sight brighter than i was expecting her to and hopefully the new tranch of drugs will halt the worst symptoms again. *smiles*

Cicero · 11-19-2007, 01:31 PM

Holy Shit...Sorry Ali....that sucks.

Shawnee123 · 11-19-2007, 02:03 PM

My sympathy to you and your family, Ali.

Aliantha · 11-19-2007, 05:15 PM

thanks again everyone. We're off to the airport soon. Just killing time waiting for the cab.

sorry about your Pop Perry. How come it's so long till you can see him?

11-19-2007, 04:01 AM	#1097
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Nah, I've been really really low these last few days. Unable to sleep, finding basic tasks difficult, hating myself - so I was probably projecting some of that on him. In my defence, I always ask a guest before a roast how many potatoes they want (and add two over), whether they want parsnips, roast onions. I ate to serve up a huge pile of food and have someone pick off one slice of meat and two carrots. The time issue is simply that - I eat early, he eats late. Originally it was going to be 18.30. We ate at 19.45. Not a problem really, but as a twitchily punctual person I got jumpy. It all worked out fine of course - the meat wasn't rare but it was very tender and the gravy covered the fact the veg were lukewarm. I'm sure he ate what I didn't afterwards. I'm going to the doctors on an unrelated issue today, I'll tell him about my downswing. I'm sure it's all part & parcel though. Got a new gym class today (Reebok Deck?!) that might time me out enough to stop whining. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

11-19-2007, 05:19 AM	#1098
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	grandmother died this afternoon. We're going to Sydney tomorrow morning. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-19-2007, 05:21 AM	#1099
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Sorry for Dazza's loss Hope it goes as well as it can __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

11-19-2007, 05:30 AM	#1101
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Thanks SG. You're a doll. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-19-2007, 08:32 AM	#1103
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Yes Ducks, it was a very low grade step class - cardio to start as the warm up, then step, then resistance using bands. I found it very hard, especially the step and there were two exercises I couldn't do in resistance. So I'm going next week. Went to the gym as well - have my re-assessment tomorrow. HM says I wouldn't have been able to complete today's class 6 weeks ago. I just see what I can't do as usual. It's a long road. Perry sorry to hear about your Granfather - 6 ribs is pretty spectacular. When my Grandad started to fall it sudenly became a common occurrence BUT it lead to him being diagnosed with Parkinson's and having his home fitted out for extra safety and balance. His falls got far less frequent. All I can say is I know it's scary when your older relatives give you an inkling they won't be around forever - just stay in touch any way you can so you have nothing to regret just in case. I'm sure you'll be back to see him soon enough. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

11-19-2007, 05:24 AM	#1100
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Is reebok deck like a step class, SG? Hormones getting you down maybe? I would expect HM to ask you are vegies and portion...especially since he knows you are dieting. I love RPM or Spin classes and Stomp....cross between Step and Pump (weights)

11-19-2007, 08:21 AM	#1102
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	My grandpa fell and broke 6 ribs. For the last few years he's been going downhill pretty steadily. . .And I'm not going to be able to see him for at least 13 months. That's optimistic, too.

11-19-2007, 09:16 AM	#1104
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Ali , sorry to hear of ya'll loss , I KNOW its a relief though ( for it to be over that is ) SG , let him cook what he wants , you eat what you want , ( if he whines you can tell him you are trying to diet ) smack your lips and tell him him GOOD it was , Then offer him a low cal desert __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

11-19-2007, 12:29 PM	#1106
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	Sorry to hear about Dazza's gran, Ali. Best wishes to him and his family.

11-19-2007, 12:50 PM	#1107
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Sorry to hear about Dazza's loss, Ali. Also sorry to hear bout your Grandpa, Perry. Must feel worse being so far away. hugs I have a good news update on my friend. She was discharged from hospital this afternoon and is now ensconced in her armchair at home. I'm just on my way down to see her now, actually. Glad she wasn't in longer, it's exactly the kind of thing that her political enemies would make a meal out of.....with sugared tones of concern obviously. Still....she's out, she sounds a damn sight brighter than i was expecting her to and hopefully the new tranch of drugs will halt the worst symptoms again. smiles

11-19-2007, 01:31 PM	#1108
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Holy Shit...Sorry Ali....that sucks. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

11-19-2007, 02:03 PM	#1109
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	My sympathy to you and your family, Ali.

11-19-2007, 05:15 PM	#1110
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	thanks again everyone. We're off to the airport soon. Just killing time waiting for the cab. sorry about your Pop Perry. How come it's so long till you can see him? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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