R.I.P. Gaines

infinite monkey · 11-05-2011, 11:00 PM

My darling cat, Gainesboro Thomas (Gaines, Gainesburger, Gainesy Wainsy, Buggy Bug...Native American name Panther Scamping) had a seizure today. I took him to the 24 hour emergency vet in South Dayton. According to the doctor, any diagnostics...while offered, would only prolong the inevitable. Seizures indicate a brain tumor, or kidneys or other organs failing.

I thought he was about 15, but in talking to my ex we figured he had to be even older than that. Though we don't know how old he was exactly when we found him, the timeline suggests more like 17.

I had to make the tough decision. I loved this cat more than breathing. He was such a boy's cat, but especially in these last months of it being just me and him, he was a mommy's boy too.

He brought me years of snuggles and laughter, and he has been my rock who was always there after a long day at work. After dinner, of course. What a boy.

He was so beautiful too. I had recently posted about him being a Russian Blue. He was very healthy. Healthier than any of my other cats. He was healthy healthy healthy until one day, today, when he wasn't. I was with him until he was gone. I was given the choice to say goodbye and leave the room. But I was there when he took his last breath. I could only do that for him, in the end.

I love you Gaines. Thanks for being my best pal.

I don't think I'll have another pet for a long time. If ever.

monster · 11-05-2011, 11:09 PM

Oh I'm so sorry -and so soon after Taj

zippyt · 11-05-2011, 11:12 PM

Sorry bout yer Cat

ZenGum · 11-06-2011, 12:10 AM

Very sad. Praise to you for staying with him.

I think you need a pet, Infi, to keep you off the very bottom of the black moods. Just not yet.

Lamplighter · 11-06-2011, 12:15 AM

It's very sad to lose a pet.
You made a very difficult decision, but you will remember your good times with him longer.

Take care.

Pete Zicato · 11-06-2011, 12:36 AM

It's always hard to lose a close friend. The fact that he came in a feline package doesn't change that.

You must do what is best for yourself. But I hope you learn to love again.

classicman · 11-06-2011, 12:49 AM

So sorry. I feel your pain. Remember the good times.

jimhelm · 11-06-2011, 01:00 AM

sorry, hunny.

when i took Bunyip to be put down (kidneys failing 15 yrs old, wasting away)... I was not expecting the girl to offer to just take him, and see to it... letting me off the hook of watching my friend die... and I got the vibe that they prefer to handle it without you there... so I agreed to just leave him....

I felt like such a shit after. You did the right thing, no doubt. When Banzai was put down (same thing as Bunyip) I held him as he died. It was much harder... but it was not about me... it was about him. This is not a fun thing to go through, shaw. People can be kind of glib about the loss of a pet... but fuck them this hurts like hell. Really Really sorry you lost your friend.

BIGWARMHUG

classicman · 11-06-2011, 01:03 AM

Well said Jim.

jimhelm · 11-06-2011, 01:06 AM

skysidhe · 11-06-2011, 01:20 AM

I feel for you. It's very hard to lose a pet and I am sorry for your loss.

You gave him your final act of love when he needed it most. Good on you for staying with him,( not doing it is haunting.)

Pico and ME · 11-06-2011, 01:55 AM

Aw Im so sorry IM. It does hurt to lose a friend. I was with Beau when we put him down and then we took him back with us to bury him in the back yard. Watching him go was pretty tough. What a big hole he left.

Aliantha · 11-06-2011, 04:01 AM

I'm sorry you lost your kitty, and like the others, I think you did the right thing being with him at the end. I sat on the floor and cuddled Sheba till she was gone too. That last cuddle was the most important one I ever gave her I think.

It fucking sux when someone you love dies, even if they do have four legs instead of two. xxx

DanaC · 11-06-2011, 05:06 AM

*Hugs*

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. I'll second what the others have said, and add my own sorrow to the heap. 17 years is a long life for a kitteh, but not even close to long enough. I know the 13 years I've had so far with Pilau feel almost fleeting at times (though also forever). Virtual hugs are all I can offer.

Like Zen though, I think you need an animal companion. Not yet, but sometime.

Trilby · 11-06-2011, 05:25 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this. I add my sympathies, sweetie.

You did right by Gaines - you made the hard choice and stood by his side. May he rest in kitteh heaven peace and may you, too, find peace knowing you did the right thing and you loved him with all your heart.

Hugs.

11-05-2011, 11:00 PM	#1
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	R.I.P. Gaines My darling cat, Gainesboro Thomas (Gaines, Gainesburger, Gainesy Wainsy, Buggy Bug...Native American name Panther Scamping) had a seizure today. I took him to the 24 hour emergency vet in South Dayton. According to the doctor, any diagnostics...while offered, would only prolong the inevitable. Seizures indicate a brain tumor, or kidneys or other organs failing. I thought he was about 15, but in talking to my ex we figured he had to be even older than that. Though we don't know how old he was exactly when we found him, the timeline suggests more like 17. I had to make the tough decision. I loved this cat more than breathing. He was such a boy's cat, but especially in these last months of it being just me and him, he was a mommy's boy too. He brought me years of snuggles and laughter, and he has been my rock who was always there after a long day at work. After dinner, of course. What a boy. He was so beautiful too. I had recently posted about him being a Russian Blue. He was very healthy. Healthier than any of my other cats. He was healthy healthy healthy until one day, today, when he wasn't. I was with him until he was gone. I was given the choice to say goodbye and leave the room. But I was there when he took his last breath. I could only do that for him, in the end. I love you Gaines. Thanks for being my best pal. I don't think I'll have another pet for a long time. If ever.

11-05-2011, 11:09 PM	#2
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Oh I'm so sorry -and so soon after Taj __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

11-05-2011, 11:12 PM	#3
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Sorry bout yer Cat __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

11-06-2011, 12:10 AM	#4
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Very sad. Praise to you for staying with him. I think you need a pet, Infi, to keep you off the very bottom of the black moods. Just not yet. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

11-06-2011, 12:36 AM	#6
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	It's always hard to lose a close friend. The fact that he came in a feline package doesn't change that. You must do what is best for yourself. But I hope you learn to love again. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

11-06-2011, 12:15 AM	#5
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	It's very sad to lose a pet. You made a very difficult decision, but you will remember your good times with him longer. Take care.

11-06-2011, 12:49 AM	#7
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	So sorry. I feel your pain. Remember the good times. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

11-06-2011, 01:00 AM	#8
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	sorry, hunny. when i took Bunyip to be put down (kidneys failing 15 yrs old, wasting away)... I was not expecting the girl to offer to just take him, and see to it... letting me off the hook of watching my friend die... and I got the vibe that they prefer to handle it without you there... so I agreed to just leave him.... I felt like such a shit after. You did the right thing, no doubt. When Banzai was put down (same thing as Bunyip) I held him as he died. It was much harder... but it was not about me... it was about him. This is not a fun thing to go through, shaw. People can be kind of glib about the loss of a pet... but fuck them this hurts like hell. Really Really sorry you lost your friend. BIGWARMHUG __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

11-06-2011, 01:03 AM	#9
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Well said Jim. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

11-06-2011, 01:06 AM	#10
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	__________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

11-06-2011, 01:20 AM	#11
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	I feel for you. It's very hard to lose a pet and I am sorry for your loss. You gave him your final act of love when he needed it most. Good on you for staying with him,( not doing it is haunting.)

11-06-2011, 01:55 AM	#12
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Aw Im so sorry IM. It does hurt to lose a friend. I was with Beau when we put him down and then we took him back with us to bury him in the back yard. Watching him go was pretty tough. What a big hole he left. __________________ Jesse LaGreca in 2012 “Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Science without humanity, Knowledge without character, Politics without principle, Commerce without morality, Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi

11-06-2011, 04:01 AM	#13
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'm sorry you lost your kitty, and like the others, I think you did the right thing being with him at the end. I sat on the floor and cuddled Sheba till she was gone too. That last cuddle was the most important one I ever gave her I think. It fucking sux when someone you love dies, even if they do have four legs instead of two. xxx __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-06-2011, 05:25 AM	#15
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I'm so sorry to hear this. I add my sympathies, sweetie. You did right by Gaines - you made the hard choice and stood by his side. May he rest in kitteh heaven peace and may you, too, find peace knowing you did the right thing and you loved him with all your heart. Hugs. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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