Superstitious People - Dealing With them

[FileNotFound]

So here's the situation. I'm engaged to my GF, I've known her since I was 7 year old and we've been living together for about a month now. In the past our relationship has been smooth and perfect. We never argued or anything.

She's always been a bit supersticious, but it never bugged me. I thought of her interest in astrology and palm reading somewhat amusing. Yet there is far more to it and it's starting to drive me insane...

She has a notebook filled with things that one may dream about and what they may mean. She has firm belifs that getting married on a leap year is bad luck, in fact there are specific months on which one must get married. If she gets hick ups or red ears, its' because somebody is thinking about her - she HAS to figure out just who it is...gee who could be thinking of me at this hour. Yes little things, but they annoy me.

What really pissed me off was that last night she complained of some tingling in her back and blamed it on...computer radiation from my laptop (never mind that she told me that I shouldn't put my laptop on my lap...cause I'll get infertile?! Gha!!!). I told her it was all BS and she started telling me that she read it in thousands of magazines etc. I eventualy snapped and we didn't talk anymore last night.

This morning when I left I was still pissed off at her and she showed no sign of giving in. I was at the doctors till about 1pm so when I came into work I had 3 emails from her waiting for me pointing to some page from 1996 ranting about "computer radiation" the whole thing written by a loon, a page about how computer kill eyesight (really? I'm 20/20 and been behind a PC since 14 an avg of 120 hours a week)...and yet another copy of the 1996 article. Ok I'm pissed...but whatever, spam is worse. Then she calls me up...and starts ranting about how computers emit tons of harmful radiation, I tell her that I'm an MCSE and built more computers than I can remember, I know everything there is to know about PCs. She still won't give in, I'm at work trying to stay as calm as possible, I ask if the sole purpose of her call is to argue with me, she said yes, I told her I had no time for that bullshit and hung up...

It's all sounding silly but illogical things drive me insane. I do not believe in god because it can't be scientificaly proven, I like logic and science. I like things that make sense. The quickest way to piss me off is to insist on something totaly illogical...and she mastered it.

Not once before in my life did I ever expect to be pissed at her, yet now I'm furious, I hung up on her and today instead of going home I inted to go out with some friends instead.

I just don't know how to deal with this. She seems to have NO desire to give in and no interest in any compromise. She claims to know for a FACT that computers emit hazardos levels of radiation and laptops are also very dangerous. In fact she looks at me like I'm the biggest idiot in the world when I say that computers do not emit any harmful radiation etc...

I love her and was always sure that she'd be the one I'd spend my life with yet I just can't deal with this shit... I actualy asked my mother for advice...geez I never do that...I'm confused

So what I want to know is this: Can you "cure" superstition?

For the recrod. Yes computers do emit some radiation, yes it is somewhat 'harmful' but I get more radiation from 5 minutes in the sun then from years of PC use.

[perth]

You can't change her, so don't try. You can only change yourself. If you don't want to change yourself but want to stay with her, then learn to deal with it.

Don't try to impose your will or beliefs on her, she will only resent it. Sounds like shes trying to do the same thing. Make her realise that you don't buy it and agree to disagree.

Your girlfriend is obviously a fucking retard. People that illogical are better suited to being panhandlers. That you're with her speaks volumes about how secure you are as a person. Send her my way for a couple fucks and then I'll throw her out on the street where she should be.

[Beestie]

You have been on the computer 120 hours a week since what I'm guessing is a long time ago and only now does this come up?

Its been my experience that when little things become huge things its because there really is something huge behind it. That is has come up only one month after moving in together may not be a co-incidence.

Better find out what it is.

If I HAD to guess, I'd say she's jealous of the computer but that is pure speculation on my part.

I suggest getting a woman's point of view. Paging April

[FileNotFound]

dave, WTF is your problem anyway?

What am I your target of the week?

"Oh it's monday. Time for a new poster to piss on...."

Go play some Q3 or something with a rocket launcher up your ass

[FileNotFound]

Originally posted by Beestie
You have been on the computer 120 hours a week since what I'm guessing is a long time ago and only now does this come up?

Its been my experience that when little things become huge things its because there really is something huge behind it. That is has come up only one month after moving in together may not be a co-incidence.

Better find out what it is.

If I HAD to guess, I'd say she's jealous of the computer but that is pure speculation on my part.

I suggest getting a woman's point of view. Paging April

I used to play MMORPGs heavily and take work home before she moved in. I have quit MMORPGS in Feb, and have played games for a total of 3 hours in the past months, during those 3 hours she was out shopping. No I can't say she's jealous of the PC. She spends more time on it at home than I do.

It's an interesting view of it but sadly it's not that. Unless she wants me to quit my job or something.... She did mention that I should go see if I'm still "fertile" seeing how I spend so much time with computers at work, especialy the big ones in the dreaded data center..sigh

Originally posted by FileNotFound
dave, WTF is your problem anyway?

What am I your target of the week?

"Oh it's monday. Time for a new poster to piss on...."

Go play some Q3 or something with a rocket launcher up your ass

I was just treating you how you treat April. I thought it was the kind of feedback you like, since it's the type of feedback you give.

And it's actually Tuesday. I know that being with your girlfriend has dumbed you down substantially, but reading a calendar I thought was still within your grasp.

[FileNotFound]

Originally posted by dave


I was just treating you how you treat April. I thought it was the kind of feedback you like, since it's the type of feedback you give.

And it's actually Tuesday. I know that being with your girlfriend has dumbed you down substantially, but reading a calendar I thought was still within your grasp.

I was assuming you switched targets on a weekly basis and monday seemed like a logical place to start.

If you do switch targets on a daily basis then I am relieved that tomorow you'll go piss over somebody else, preferably the resident retard, april.

I will continue my trend of "being an asshole to fucking retards". Easiest way to get me on your side is not be a fucking retard.

[FileNotFound]

Thats a nice trend. So why are you being nice to april who by all means is a fucking retard while I am a fucking asshole.

Are you sure you're not getting a bit mixed up here?

'cause I have a certain empathy for people who mean well. And I just don't see any evidence that you do.

(Look at it this way: April <b>obviously</b> has a lot of problems in her life. She doesn't need you as another one.)

[FileNotFound]

Aww you got a soft spot. How touching....I think I feel a tear..wait no..nevermind...

Yeah she's got problems..no shit. She brought them on herself. How is having a baby before you can even provide for it "meaning well" how is continuing not to use condoms "meaning well"?

Wake up and see through the "Oh woe is me" bullshit. She's just another soon to be single mom draining wellfare retard.

Going to be a graphic designer my ass...know how many of those get jobs after college? No walmart doesn't count as a real job..

I just don't know what you see in April. I just see somebody who's sitting on her lazy ass at school looking for ways to kill time. Read a fucking book, I'm sure there are THOUSANDS of books you can read on how to raise your child. How many have you read so far? 1? 2? 3? No not brochures. BOOKS.

'sallgood dude. You ever ask for help?

(Yes. Twice now, in two threads.)

Get what you give.

(At this point, if I were running the Cellar, I would disable posting on your account, because you've made it clear that you want help but are unwilling to give anything useful back to the community. The Cellar needs people like you like you need a position of responsibility. That is to say, not at all.)

[FileNotFound]

Originally posted by dave
'sallgood dude. You ever ask for help?

(Yes. Twice now, in two threads.)

Get what you give.

(At this point, if I were running the Cellar, I would disable posting on your account, because you've made it clear that you want help but are unwilling to give anything useful back to the community. The Cellar needs people like you like you need a position of responsibility. That is to say, not at all.)

In that case I'm very fortunate that you're not running the Cellar. But quite frankly if I lost posting privilege I'd not be too devastated. Last I checked there are no forum blockers here and I have no interest in staying where I'm not wanted.

Yet while I have posting rights I will continue to post.


I also find it odd that you talk of "giving back to the community" and parade about proudly with your "I flame the people I proclaim to be retards!" banner.

Yeah I see you were very helpful to your newfound netfriend April. Your good advice to date is:

Try to do the right thing, April, and most of the time it'll end up okay.

Try not to look at him as an ass. It doesn't really help. It's not a positive feeling. He has a different opinion, and he's not being particularly helpful or productive. That's okay - people will do that. It's just maybe not exactly what the conversation needs right now. You've said that you regret it and you know it was wrong; that's all you really need to say. If you can recognize your mistakes, then you have an advantage over the people that can't (which is most, believe it or not).


Very good. I applaud you! The rest was just attacking people who disagreed with you... I suppose it's cause they were retards.

Do you feel intimidated or something? Have I taken your "job" of flaming the retards away from you so now you flame me?

In the end if you feel that my posting right should be removed. Fine. I can deal with that. I assure you that I'm not in the least intimidated by the prospect. I'm full of myself enough to believe that it will be your loss and not mine.