Foreplay, lets talk about it

blue · 03-12-2004, 06:50 PM

Is it really necessary? What turns you on? I just tweaked my wifes toe bad when she started bugging me, I'm busy. I think she wants it.

Lets share please.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-12-2004, 07:00 PM

Just set the ashtray on her stomach, she'll know.:p

ladysycamore · 03-13-2004, 06:34 PM

I'll just say yes, it's necessary, and leave it at that.

warch · 03-13-2004, 07:09 PM

ladies love the courvosier.

Griff · 03-13-2004, 07:12 PM

Give her two aspirin and a glass of water.

Nerollss · 03-14-2004, 04:49 PM

Handing over my paycheck is the best foreplay!!

staceyv · 03-14-2004, 10:04 PM

no need for all that crap. just say you want it and get the clothes off. foreplay's best when it's thrown in the middle.

Sun_Sparkz · 03-14-2004, 11:25 PM

NO WAY! 4play is the best bit! there is no main without the entree, or at least a pre-dinner drink is called for.

I read in trusty cleo that men can climax within 2 minits of being aroused, whereas it taken women 6 times that amount of time! think about it guys.. it has to be fair.

lumberjim · 03-14-2004, 11:32 PM

Foreplay, schmooreplay. The best sex is spontaneous. In an elevator.

And..... It's even better with a partner.

ladysycamore · 03-15-2004, 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by staceyv
no need for all that crap. just say you want it and get the clothes off. foreplay's best when it's thrown in the middle.

Then that would be "middelplay".

Anyway, when done "properly", foreplay starts WAYYY before anyone disrobes or hits the bedroom.

I'll leave you intellectual folk to figure that one out. *grins*

headsplice · 03-15-2004, 10:53 AM

Isn't foreplay getting the other person in the mood?
Therefore, it starts when you first set eyes on them. "The Look" (hereby TM by me) gets the ball rolling in the right direction.

ladysycamore · 03-15-2004, 12:21 PM

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Originally posted by headsplice
Isn't foreplay getting the other person in the mood?

Yup!

Quote:

Therefore, it starts when you first set eyes on them. "The Look" (hereby TM by me) gets the ball rolling in the right direction.

While I agree with "The Look"(tm), getting a person in the mood doesn't always require the other person to even be in sight. In other words, foreplay isn't just physical.

Years ago, I remember hearing a woman say that foreplay includes the anticipation of what's to come (no pun intended). She mentioned how some people respond to their partners calling them during the day (at work, at home, etc.), to "talk them up". This way, for the rest of the day, they are distracted by the thought of meeting up later on and...well you know.

Or, the partner sends something to their S.O., like flowers or balloons with a sexy note (plus, you'll be the envy of everyone at the office..hehe). Then, you have to really build it up: perhaps a romantic dinner, either at home or at your favorite place. Of course, dinner at home...closer to the bedroom. Then, you can..um..incorporate dessert into the physical foreplay.

Of course, this isn't for everyone. If not, then you can always go to AskMen.com
for a man's POV on physical foreplay (I actually found it to be a bit humorous, because it was so..."manly" written).

LOL, or you could go the route of "mind control":
TeleHypnosis Pro

godwulf · 03-15-2004, 01:38 PM

That askmen.com article was pretty interesting, and funny in places. Kind of like foreplay, I guess.

In talking about communication during foreplay, it mentioned asking your partner, "What are you thinking right now?" or "What would you like me to do?" How do you deal with always getting the same response, when the response is "I'm just thinking about what I can do for you", or "I want you to do whatever you like"?

I don't actually say it, of course, but what generally occurs to me at that point is, Hey, I've been telling you all of my secret fantasies and what turns me on for years, what I like, etc., and getting zero from you - it's like you either don't have any imagination when it comes to sex, or you're embarassed about having one.

She's not a prude, by any means, but when it comes to actually verbalizing her desires and intimate needs, it's like pulling teeth to get two words out of her.

noodles · 03-16-2004, 01:12 AM

All work and no play makes Tom a dull partner, be it 4, middle, or after play.

By the way, 4play doesn't necessarily mean beating around the bush, does it?

staceyv · 03-16-2004, 02:11 AM

getting the clothes off IS foreplay. just saying you want it can be enough to get the ball(s) rolling.

03-12-2004, 06:50 PM	#1
blue Operations Operative Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Northern WI Posts: 739	Foreplay, lets talk about it Is it really necessary? What turns you on? I just tweaked my wifes toe bad when she started bugging me, I'm busy. I think she wants it. Lets share please. __________________ If you spot a tornado, always remember to point at it, yell "tornado!", and run like hell.

03-12-2004, 07:00 PM	#2
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Just set the ashtray on her stomach, she'll know.:p __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-13-2004, 06:34 PM	#3
ladysycamore "I may not always be perfect, but I'm always me." Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: In Sycamore's boxers Posts: 1,341	I'll just say yes, it's necessary, and leave it at that. __________________ "Freedom is not given. It is our right at birth. But there are some moments when it must be taken." ~Tagline from the movie "Amistad"~ "The Akan concept of Sankofa: In order to move forward we first have to take a step back. In other words, before we can be prepared for the future, we must comprehend the past." From "We Did It, They Hid It"

03-13-2004, 07:12 PM	#5
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Give her two aspirin and a glass of water. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-14-2004, 11:25 PM	#8
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	NO WAY! 4play is the best bit! there is no main without the entree, or at least a pre-dinner drink is called for. I read in trusty cleo that men can climax within 2 minits of being aroused, whereas it taken women 6 times that amount of time! think about it guys.. it has to be fair. __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

03-13-2004, 07:09 PM	#4
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	ladies love the courvosier.

03-14-2004, 04:49 PM	#6
Nerollss Alphabetarian Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 12	Handing over my paycheck is the best foreplay!!

03-14-2004, 10:04 PM	#7
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	no need for all that crap. just say you want it and get the clothes off. foreplay's best when it's thrown in the middle.

03-14-2004, 11:32 PM	#9
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Foreplay, schmooreplay. The best sex is spontaneous. In an elevator. And..... It's even better with a partner. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

03-15-2004, 10:53 AM	#11
headsplice Relaxed Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 676	Isn't foreplay getting the other person in the mood? Therefore, it starts when you first set eyes on them. "The Look" (hereby TM by me) gets the ball rolling in the right direction. __________________ Don't Panic

03-15-2004, 01:38 PM	#13
godwulf Coronation Incarnate Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 96	That askmen.com article was pretty interesting, and funny in places. Kind of like foreplay, I guess. In talking about communication during foreplay, it mentioned asking your partner, "What are you thinking right now?" or "What would you like me to do?" How do you deal with always getting the same response, when the response is "I'm just thinking about what I can do for you", or "I want you to do whatever you like"? I don't actually say it, of course, but what generally occurs to me at that point is, Hey, I've been telling you all of my secret fantasies and what turns me on for years, what I like, etc., and getting zero from you - it's like you either don't have any imagination when it comes to sex, or you're embarassed about having one. She's not a prude, by any means, but when it comes to actually verbalizing her desires and intimate needs, it's like pulling teeth to get two words out of her.

03-16-2004, 01:12 AM	#14
noodles Wet Nurse's Aide Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 40	All work and no play makes Tom a dull partner, be it 4, middle, or after play. By the way, 4play doesn't necessarily mean beating around the bush, does it?

03-16-2004, 02:11 AM	#15
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	getting the clothes off IS foreplay. just saying you want it can be enough to get the ball(s) rolling.

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