The drama that always infects my life...

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I am so lost and hurt and upset right now and I need some opinions.

I started seeing a guy I like a little over a month ago. It is a situation in which he was on my friend's couch because he is currently going through a divorce. I was picking him up and dropping him off every night and decided to just let him stay with me. Probably not the wisest decision, but I was happy. He isn't working at the moment, but paid for all the food for the month. (More than my ex did) He is trying to decide what to do with the business he owns with his wife and if he should relocate. He also planned on looking for work in January when it would be more reasonable that people were hiring.

I had planned a trip home for the holidays and he had offered to drop me off and pick me up from the airport. I accepted hesitantly when I noticed how much he would drink during the day. I made him promise to not drink the day he was supposed to pick me up. He promised he wouldn't. The happiness continued.

Cut to yesterday. I am sitting at the airport calling him for 15 minutes. Finally a State Trooper picks up and tells me he is being arrested for suspicion of DWI. I am stranded at the airport. Luckily, I call a friend and they pick me up, drive me downtown to try and get my keys from him to no avail because an hour and a half after I talked to the trooper, he still hasn't been processed. I crash at my friend's house because I don't have any house keys. I get woken up at 4am by a bail bondsmen asking if I am going to pay his bail - approx 250.00. I can't afford this and tell him so. I assume that he gave my name and number to them. Try again this morning, but I couldn't wait long enough because my friend had an appointment to get to. After getting told that the detention center didn't know where my car was, I finally got it out of the state trooper's office. Luckily it isn't impounded. I stop at the rental office for my apartment complex and they give me spare keys to use. I get to the apartment to find that the front door has been open all along. And the back door didn't have the bar across it leaving it unlocked, too. I call another friend to go and look for the car. I find it on the side of the road with a sticker on it. The spare keys work fine and I am off.

Right now, I am so lost on what to do. I can't spend the money to get him out. I don't know if I want to stay with him even though I am bordering on loving him. I don't know how to find out any other information. And frankly, I don't know if I want to.

Basically - I feel like I am just completely lost on what to do next. Any advice?