Would I be a fool?

staceyv · 06-21-2005, 11:49 AM

I had a dream about adopting two shelter dogs while I was taking my nap today. Just out of curiosity, I did a search of available dogs within 2 hours away. I must've looked at pictures and read descriptions for 1 1/2 hours. Now, I'm the bitchy, cynical type. I don't cry at movies, I've even assisted in euthanizing well over 100 pets without a tear in my eye (when I worked at the vet).
Yet, when I saw this little guy I had tears rolling down my face.
I feel like going to adopt him first thing tomorrow morning. Arsen will tell me I'm crazy, that I had too much time on my hands this week, that the dog might not even be around another year. But- look at him!
And I have a 9 1/2 year old chihuahua. They'd probably be perfect for each other.
Should I get him? Or will you try to talk me out of it then?

"Jake is a 12/13 year old Min Pin who is an absolute love. He's housebroken, well behaved, crate trained, and a cuddler. He just wants to be with you, in your lap, preferably. Jake gets along with other dogs, cats and strangers. He's not much of a barker but will make a wooing kind of sound when he sees people outside. He loves to perch on the back of a couch, by your head, and gaze outside. Jake's previous owners moved and could not take him with them. Oh, by the way, he doesn't have any teeth anymore - they were rotting out of his mouth, but he does eat normally. This sweet guy definitely deserves a home that will love him shamelessly."

mrnoodle · 06-21-2005, 12:04 PM

He deserves a home that will love him, but also one that can take care of him. Are you financially able to feed another mouth? Will he have someone home with him during the day, or will he be alone for hours at a time, and only get attention for a little while each day?

Also, don't make a decision to buy a pet without your husband's input. That's disrespectful and selfish, and will make him more likely to resent the dog and you. Decide together what to do. And don't punish him if he disagrees -- he's got a right to help make decisions that affect the home he shares with you.

Just last month, a friend of mine had this come up. His wife went out to buy milk, and instead bought a puppy out of the back of someone's pickup, with only the seller's assurances that it had shots, etc. Keep in mind that they have just had a special needs child, he is scheduled for layoff in the next 6 months, and they have a 6 year old who has just started school. Oh, and a cat.

They're living paycheck to paycheck, and all on his income (she occasionally cleans an office and intermittently has a waitressing gig). So he vetoed the puppy and while she bawled and pouted, he took it back. She didn't speak a word to him for a week, and was so depressed that she sat on the couch for hours at a time without caring for the baby or doing ANYthing around the house, despite being unemployed. He got to do that when he got home from his 12-hour shift.

She didn't care about the impact on the bank account, the family, or anything. All she knew was the thing made puppy eyes at her and she WANTED it.

Keep Arsen in the loop, and be cool about stuff, regardless of whether you adopt this (cute) puppy or not. [/twocents]

Undertoad · 06-21-2005, 12:14 PM

I know you know this already Stace, but this dog could become a very large veterinary bill in the next year or two.

staceyv · 06-21-2005, 12:19 PM

I know Arsen. If I said I wanted this dog, he wouldn't give me too much trouble over it. He might try to talk some sense into me, but he always gives me what I want (within reason!) if it makes me happy.

The question about being able to financially afford feeding him made me laugh

This dog weighs all of 7 pounds. I buy my chihuahua the most expensive food on the market- none of the crap from the grocery store!
I also save money every month just in case he needs to go to the vet. (I had no problem dishing out $240 for an ultrasound)
We really don't have a lot of money at all, but when it comes to the important stuff, you find it or you use the "emergencies only" credit card.

He'd have my chihuahua for company. I only work 3 or 4 shifts a week for about 6 or 7 hours. Many of those shifts are at night and Arsen is home then. I also have a 10 day "vacation" every month.

I used to do pet adoption counseling at the animal shelter. I'd approve myself in a heartbeat. I just wish I never even saw this little old guy, because I don't want to set myself up for heartache- that's my only real issue. Then again, I feel like I never do anything positive for society. All I do is waitress and bitch.
I'd like to do something unselfish and good, you know?

cjjulie · 06-21-2005, 12:41 PM

Get him!

Happy Monkey · 06-21-2005, 12:52 PM

A toothless dog that goes "woo"... That scores pretty high on the cutometer.

BrianR · 06-21-2005, 07:09 PM

Fair warning, a dog with no teeth will look totally pathetic in a year. The lower jaw erodes until it's barely there at all and the tongue hangs out and tends to be very dry.

Also, special foods will be required since he cannot chew anymore. Check with your vet before committing to this little guy.

staceyv · 06-21-2005, 07:23 PM

The more pathetic he looked, the more I'd love him...
I figured that since he doesn't have any teeth, he'd need canned food.

I need to stop looking at pictures of homeless animals. Isn't that the way of the world now? Turn your head and ignore it and pretend nothing needs to be done.

limey · 06-21-2005, 08:34 PM

This dog will not live more than a year or two at the most. That makes it 1 cheap of food and expensive on vets bills and 2 a heartbreaker.

Trilby · 06-21-2005, 08:32 PM

Stacey--my kitty Carly doesn't have any teeth and she eats dry food (has for years without problem) and her jaw is fine. I say adopt the little guy. He's adorable!

Of course, I have trouble running my own life, so don't really listen to me!

staceyv · 06-21-2005, 09:47 PM

But putting aside inconveniences towards myself, wouldn't it be nice for HIM if he had a loving home for those last two years?

Sun_Sparkz · 06-21-2005, 11:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by staceyv

But putting aside inconveniences towards myself, wouldn't it be nice for HIM if he had a loving home for those last two years?

YES IT WOULD

if Arsen is cool about this i say you identify if you can make this baby happy, and if you can make his last 12 months happier, and give him comfort and the love he so obviously deserves, then stace go for it! Also your 1st dog may need a pal!

Is your apartment big enough?

Will you walk him enough?

Just be aware that your current dog may get depressed if he dies.. it will effect him too

SteveDallas · 06-21-2005, 11:27 PM

I don't know diddly squat about animals. (This despite the fact that my wife and her best friend are both convinced I need a cockatiel.) But I can tell when somebody is trying to get somebody else to convince her it's OK to do something she's just dying to do but doesn't think is a good idea.

staceyv · 06-22-2005, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by SteveDallas

I don't know diddly squat about animals. (This despite the fact that my wife and her best friend are both convinced I need a cockatiel.) But I can tell when somebody is trying to get somebody else to convince her it's OK to do something she's just dying to do but doesn't think is a good idea.

Damn. Steve is 100% right. I AM dying to help this dog, I think he's cute as hell. But if I go get him,
#1 we'll end up charging vet bills on the credit card
#2 he'll die and break my heart
#3 he'll die and break my chihuahua's heart

I went through this same thing about 6 years ago, with a fat, old chihuahua named "chico" that I took home from the shelter for one night to do a behavior evaluation on him. I wanted to keep him, but I decided to wait a few weeks and see if he got adopted by someone else. He did. And when I've looked back on it, I always felt I did the right thing...

Maybe I can call and tell them to notify me if he's going to be put to sleep, otherwise, let someone with money and no other pets take him....

Elspode · 06-22-2005, 01:18 PM

Well, I was going to pipe up and urge you to take serious stock of things before making a noble commitment, but it appears you already have. That's using your head, while still paying attention to your heart, girl.

06-21-2005, 12:41 PM	#5
cjjulie Colonist Extraordinaire Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: CT Posts: 201	Get him! __________________ Fun,Fearless,Female

06-21-2005, 12:52 PM	#6
Happy Monkey I think this line's mostly filler. Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: DC Posts: 13,575	A toothless dog that goes "woo"... That scores pretty high on the cutometer. __________________ _________________ \|...............\| We live in the nick of times. \| Len 17, Wid 3 \| \|_______________\| [pics]

06-21-2005, 07:09 PM	#7
BrianR Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 3,338	Fair warning, a dog with no teeth will look totally pathetic in a year. The lower jaw erodes until it's barely there at all and the tongue hangs out and tends to be very dry. Also, special foods will be required since he cannot chew anymore. Check with your vet before committing to this little guy. __________________ Never be afraid to tell the world who you are. -- Anonymous

06-21-2005, 08:34 PM	#9
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	This dog will not live more than a year or two at the most. That makes it 1 cheap of food and expensive on vets bills and 2 a heartbreaker. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-21-2005, 08:32 PM	#10
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Stacey--my kitty Carly doesn't have any teeth and she eats dry food (has for years without problem) and her jaw is fine. I say adopt the little guy. He's adorable! Of course, I have trouble running my own life, so don't really listen to me! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

06-21-2005, 11:49 AM	#1
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	Would I be a fool? I had a dream about adopting two shelter dogs while I was taking my nap today. Just out of curiosity, I did a search of available dogs within 2 hours away. I must've looked at pictures and read descriptions for 1 1/2 hours. Now, I'm the bitchy, cynical type. I don't cry at movies, I've even assisted in euthanizing well over 100 pets without a tear in my eye (when I worked at the vet). Yet, when I saw this little guy I had tears rolling down my face. I feel like going to adopt him first thing tomorrow morning. Arsen will tell me I'm crazy, that I had too much time on my hands this week, that the dog might not even be around another year. But- look at him! And I have a 9 1/2 year old chihuahua. They'd probably be perfect for each other. Should I get him? Or will you try to talk me out of it then? "Jake is a 12/13 year old Min Pin who is an absolute love. He's housebroken, well behaved, crate trained, and a cuddler. He just wants to be with you, in your lap, preferably. Jake gets along with other dogs, cats and strangers. He's not much of a barker but will make a wooing kind of sound when he sees people outside. He loves to perch on the back of a couch, by your head, and gaze outside. Jake's previous owners moved and could not take him with them. Oh, by the way, he doesn't have any teeth anymore - they were rotting out of his mouth, but he does eat normally. This sweet guy definitely deserves a home that will love him shamelessly." Attached Images

06-21-2005, 12:04 PM	#2
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	He deserves a home that will love him, but also one that can take care of him. Are you financially able to feed another mouth? Will he have someone home with him during the day, or will he be alone for hours at a time, and only get attention for a little while each day? Also, don't make a decision to buy a pet without your husband's input. That's disrespectful and selfish, and will make him more likely to resent the dog and you. Decide together what to do. And don't punish him if he disagrees -- he's got a right to help make decisions that affect the home he shares with you. Just last month, a friend of mine had this come up. His wife went out to buy milk, and instead bought a puppy out of the back of someone's pickup, with only the seller's assurances that it had shots, etc. Keep in mind that they have just had a special needs child, he is scheduled for layoff in the next 6 months, and they have a 6 year old who has just started school. Oh, and a cat. They're living paycheck to paycheck, and all on his income (she occasionally cleans an office and intermittently has a waitressing gig). So he vetoed the puppy and while she bawled and pouted, he took it back. She didn't speak a word to him for a week, and was so depressed that she sat on the couch for hours at a time without caring for the baby or doing ANYthing around the house, despite being unemployed. He got to do that when he got home from his 12-hour shift. She didn't care about the impact on the bank account, the family, or anything. All she knew was the thing made puppy eyes at her and she WANTED it. Keep Arsen in the loop, and be cool about stuff, regardless of whether you adopt this (cute) puppy or not. [/twocents] __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

06-21-2005, 12:14 PM	#3
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I know you know this already Stace, but this dog could become a very large veterinary bill in the next year or two.

06-21-2005, 12:19 PM	#4
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	I know Arsen. If I said I wanted this dog, he wouldn't give me too much trouble over it. He might try to talk some sense into me, but he always gives me what I want (within reason!) if it makes me happy. The question about being able to financially afford feeding him made me laugh This dog weighs all of 7 pounds. I buy my chihuahua the most expensive food on the market- none of the crap from the grocery store! I also save money every month just in case he needs to go to the vet. (I had no problem dishing out $240 for an ultrasound) We really don't have a lot of money at all, but when it comes to the important stuff, you find it or you use the "emergencies only" credit card. He'd have my chihuahua for company. I only work 3 or 4 shifts a week for about 6 or 7 hours. Many of those shifts are at night and Arsen is home then. I also have a 10 day "vacation" every month. I used to do pet adoption counseling at the animal shelter. I'd approve myself in a heartbeat. I just wish I never even saw this little old guy, because I don't want to set myself up for heartache- that's my only real issue. Then again, I feel like I never do anything positive for society. All I do is waitress and bitch. I'd like to do something unselfish and good, you know?

06-21-2005, 07:23 PM	#8
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	The more pathetic he looked, the more I'd love him... I figured that since he doesn't have any teeth, he'd need canned food. I need to stop looking at pictures of homeless animals. Isn't that the way of the world now? Turn your head and ignore it and pretend nothing needs to be done.

06-21-2005, 09:47 PM	#11
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	But putting aside inconveniences towards myself, wouldn't it be nice for HIM if he had a loving home for those last two years?

06-21-2005, 11:27 PM	#13
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	I don't know diddly squat about animals. (This despite the fact that my wife and her best friend are both convinced I need a cockatiel.) But I can tell when somebody is trying to get somebody else to convince her it's OK to do something she's just dying to do but doesn't think is a good idea.

06-22-2005, 01:18 PM	#15
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Well, I was going to pipe up and urge you to take serious stock of things before making a noble commitment, but it appears you already have. That's using your head, while still paying attention to your heart, girl. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

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