What do men want?

orthodoc · 12-16-2013, 08:17 PM

Yeah, okay, get the snorts and snickers out of the way ... and then, not ignoring sex, but taking a broader view that includes it, ...

Why do men say they want a woman who is warm and sympathetic, caring, etc., and then bail the moment she shows these qualities? Why do men decry the concept of the icy narcissistic queen, and then spend their lives chasing her? Do men really need to endlessly hunt but never make that perfect shot?

What do the cellar men want? Do they want a woman who is hard to win over, who remains remote, but who occasionally bestows favors? Do they want a best friend who shares passion and amazing pleasure with only them? Do they want something else again? What do men want?

For me ... I'm interested only in terms of making sense of past failures. I've moved beyond the phase of trying to reinvent myself. I'm just honestly wondering.

Lola Bunny · 12-16-2013, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by orthodoc

Why do men say they want a woman who is warm and sympathetic, caring, etc., and then bail the moment she shows these qualities? Why do men decry the concept of the icy narcissistic queen, and then spend their lives chasing her? Do men really need to endlessly hunt but never make that perfect shot?

For me ... I'm interested only in terms of making sense of past failures. I've moved beyond the phase of trying to reinvent myself. I'm just honestly wondering.

Not all men are like that. I know a man who wants a warm and sympathetic, caring, etc woman and stays away from those icy narcissistic queens. I'm sorry that all men that you've met are the bad ones. I may occasionally say men are bastards, but I do believe there are good bastards out there.

Hehehe....I'm kidding around. There are good men out there. I'm sorry that you haven't met one.

lumberjim · 12-17-2013, 12:13 AM

I want a girl with a short skirt and a long jacket.

Really, I like a woman smart enough to be funny, but not so smart that you can never tell the same joke twice. Calm but not boring. Pleasant, but not submissive. Confident, but not bossy. Attractive, but not obsessed with her image. I want her to love me as I am. To want to help me improve, but not judge me and try to change who I am. Honest about her feelings, but not whiny or bitchy. Amanda.

lumberjim · 12-17-2013, 12:14 AM

Oh, and blow jobs. lots of blow jobs. ; )

Big Sarge · 12-17-2013, 02:08 AM

Ok, I'm going to say embarrassing things here. Sex is not that important. Affection, cuddling, or simply holding hands can mean so much more. I want someone to be my best friend I can trust with anything. I want someone to accept that "I'm broken" and can't be fixed. I need someone who enjoys a good laugh and loves inside jokes. Looks don't mean that much to me since I'm disfigured and anyone who would love me would be beautiful in my eyes.

For this special woman, I'd do quirky things like surprise gifts. I'd try to pamper her with warm baths, massages, and cooking for her. I'd try to listen and understand her problems. If she has children or grandchildren, I would treat them as my own.

I guess it all comes down to this. I want someone I can be one with

DanaC · 12-17-2013, 03:16 AM

Sarge, that's beautiful.

footfootfoot · 12-17-2013, 09:44 AM

for now:

• Someone with a sunny disposition but not a Pollyanna.
• A quick wit and good sense of humor, earthy but not slapstick.
• Very smart
• Emotionally intelligent and sound
• Self assured and competent
• GGG

Clodfobble · 12-17-2013, 10:46 AM

I'm not hip with the kids' lingo these days; what is GGG?

footfootfoot · 12-17-2013, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble

I'm not hip with the kids' lingo these days; what is GGG?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savage_Love#GGG

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Dan Savage and his readers often use the abbreviation "GGG." It stands for Good, Giving, and Game, and it means one should strive to be good in bed, giving "equal time and equal pleasure" to one's partner, and game "for anything—within reason."

BigV · 12-17-2013, 11:24 AM

Urban dictionary is your friend, esp. Dan Savage.

GGG stands for Good in bed, Giving equal attention to your partner's pleasure, and Game for "it", whatever "it" may be, within reason.

footfootfoot · 12-17-2013, 12:27 PM

Yeah, so to elaborate on what I want... in broader terms (though I am pretty sure dames don't like being called broads)

I like someone I can play with on equal ground. (I didn't say footing, for obvious reasons)
By play I mean verbally, physically, intellectually. And by play with I don't mean toy with. More in the sense of being equals or peers, able to give and take.

After living under siege for so long I am really looking for peace.

glatt · 12-17-2013, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by footfootfoot

(I didn't say footing, for obvious reasons)

I don't often laugh out loud, but this did it for me.

Undertoad · 12-17-2013, 11:18 PM

Really, I like a woman smart enough to be funny, but not so smart that you can never tell the same joke twice. Calm but not boring. Pleasant, but not submissive. Confident, but not bossy. Attractive, but not obsessed with her image. I want her to love me as I am. To want to help me improve, but not judge me and try to change who I am. Honest about her feelings, but not whiny or bitchy.

(That's Jackie too. I feel so lucky that she is with me.)

Stated perfectly sir!

lumberjim · 12-18-2013, 05:53 AM

High eighty five

Beest · 12-18-2013, 10:07 AM

xbox one

Mars/Venus for geeks

12-16-2013, 08:17 PM	#1
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	What do men want? Yeah, okay, get the snorts and snickers out of the way ... and then, not ignoring sex, but taking a broader view that includes it, ... Why do men say they want a woman who is warm and sympathetic, caring, etc., and then bail the moment she shows these qualities? Why do men decry the concept of the icy narcissistic queen, and then spend their lives chasing her? Do men really need to endlessly hunt but never make that perfect shot? What do the cellar men want? Do they want a woman who is hard to win over, who remains remote, but who occasionally bestows favors? Do they want a best friend who shares passion and amazing pleasure with only them? Do they want something else again? What do men want? For me ... I'm interested only in terms of making sense of past failures. I've moved beyond the phase of trying to reinvent myself. I'm just honestly wondering. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

12-17-2013, 12:13 AM	#3
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	I want a girl with a short skirt and a long jacket. Really, I like a woman smart enough to be funny, but not so smart that you can never tell the same joke twice. Calm but not boring. Pleasant, but not submissive. Confident, but not bossy. Attractive, but not obsessed with her image. I want her to love me as I am. To want to help me improve, but not judge me and try to change who I am. Honest about her feelings, but not whiny or bitchy. Amanda. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

12-17-2013, 12:14 AM	#4
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Oh, and blow jobs. lots of blow jobs. ; ) __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

12-17-2013, 02:08 AM	#5
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Ok, I'm going to say embarrassing things here. Sex is not that important. Affection, cuddling, or simply holding hands can mean so much more. I want someone to be my best friend I can trust with anything. I want someone to accept that "I'm broken" and can't be fixed. I need someone who enjoys a good laugh and loves inside jokes. Looks don't mean that much to me since I'm disfigured and anyone who would love me would be beautiful in my eyes. For this special woman, I'd do quirky things like surprise gifts. I'd try to pamper her with warm baths, massages, and cooking for her. I'd try to listen and understand her problems. If she has children or grandchildren, I would treat them as my own. I guess it all comes down to this. I want someone I can be one with __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

12-17-2013, 09:44 AM	#7
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	for now: • Someone with a sunny disposition but not a Pollyanna. • A quick wit and good sense of humor, earthy but not slapstick. • Very smart • Emotionally intelligent and sound • Self assured and competent • GGG __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

12-17-2013, 10:46 AM	#8
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I'm not hip with the kids' lingo these days; what is GGG? __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

12-17-2013, 11:24 AM	#10
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Urban dictionary is your friend, esp. Dan Savage. GGG stands for Good in bed, Giving equal attention to your partner's pleasure, and Game for "it", whatever "it" may be, within reason. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

12-17-2013, 12:27 PM	#11
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Yeah, so to elaborate on what I want... in broader terms (though I am pretty sure dames don't like being called broads) I like someone I can play with on equal ground. (I didn't say footing, for obvious reasons) By play I mean verbally, physically, intellectually. And by play with I don't mean toy with. More in the sense of being equals or peers, able to give and take. After living under siege for so long I am really looking for peace. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

12-17-2013, 11:18 PM	#13
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Really, I like a woman smart enough to be funny, but not so smart that you can never tell the same joke twice. Calm but not boring. Pleasant, but not submissive. Confident, but not bossy. Attractive, but not obsessed with her image. I want her to love me as I am. To want to help me improve, but not judge me and try to change who I am. Honest about her feelings, but not whiny or bitchy. (That's Jackie too. I feel so lucky that she is with me.) Stated perfectly sir!

12-18-2013, 05:53 AM	#14
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	High eighty five __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan Last edited by lumberjim; 12-18-2013 at 06:00 AM.

12-18-2013, 10:07 AM	#15
Beest Adapt and Survive Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Ann Arbor, Mi Posts: 957	xbox one Mars/Venus for geeks

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