I'm polyamorous and into the BDSM lifestyle as a switch and bottom.

[Treasenuak]

LabRat: Yes, "old fashioned" sex can cause a release very similar to subspace for a lot of people. But there are those of us who remain very much inside our own bodies during "regular" sex, and the only way to transcend that is through "alternative" sex or play. I very much enjoy regular, vanilla sex... as I've pointed out before, that's the only kind I'm getting right now and I'm content with that. I don't feel the need to be topped right now; don't feel the need for the release that s/m play and subspace give me. -shrugs- Everyone is different; everyone achieves their release different ways.

Edit: If this sounds a bit defensive, I apologize; I've been taking a lot of guff outside the Cellar recently for my lifestyle choices, and I'm getting a little tense about the need to constantly correct misconceptions or defend myself when people attack just because they don't agree with what I do. Y'all are different; you give a shit. It's the ones who call me slut and worse for living the way I do only because they don't agree with me that I'm fed up with.