Merry F'in Christmas - I want a divorce.

Its a personality type more than a gender thing, I think. I've gone through the same kind of nightmare with a man on the dishing out end. Yeah, they love the control factor and they love smashing our hearts and souls to smithereens. The best thing I ever did was to vanish into the sunset 400 miles away from my ex. He has no idea where I am and he'll never find out if I can help it. What a relief! I know vanishing isn't an option with lil' Lookout in the picture, but try to emotionally vanish. You'll be the better off for it, believe me.