need your advise

greece · 10-06-2006, 01:08 AM

Hi everyone I really need an advise as you can see I am from greece an the language will be a little problem for me I mean maybe I won't be able to express all I want in the right way but I will try. I will tell you a story.
I am 38 years old and I have a girlfriend since highschool. She is now married with 3 children. She is my best friend for all those years. When we were younger we were close we were talking about several things and mostly about our family problems we were both coming from very severe family and we both had a mother we were affraid of. So we kind had one another. (that is the way I see it maybe she doesn't). She got married very young because she wanted to leave home and this was the only way. We were all that time in touch and we were going for long walks at least once a week. At about the age of 26 (don't remember exactly) she told me she had psycological problems and had started to visit a shrink. I didn't pay any attention I mean she was telling me about her sessions and about things she discovered through the therapy but only that. Last October she started to let me get deeper to her problems. In a few words I don't know the term but she has multiple personalities. I mean when I talk to her I may talk to another personality who will not remember talking to me. And she has at least 4 of them. I don't know why she decided to let me see all that maddness because thats what it is (you can't undestand it if you don't see it). The bottom line is that from last October I am coopperating with her shrink in order to avoid a suicide. I had to talk to her over the phone ( because now I live about 70km away from our hometown) and try to understand if she was my friend I was talking to or another personality and if she was about to leave home and go to a bridge near by. she is very clever and she trusts me so she is telling me things that she does't tell her dcs. She does't know I talk with her shrink and cooperate with him. Anyway all this situation led me to a therapist because I started to loose my mind. From July and on I stopped beeing so involved because I couldn't anymore. now she is in hospital and will stay there for at least 5 months because they have to feed her (she has stopped eatting properly for the last year). the advise I need is this: her shrink is asking me to help them again by visiting her at the hospital at least once a week and staying with her some hours. I remember the last time I went to see her in the hospital I had to take the train to leave and I felt panic in the train (it was the first time) and it took me hours to feel better. I feel that what the shrink is asking me is to go back in jail. Am I too shelfish here?????:

10-06-2006, 01:08 AM	#1
greece talk only when your words are better from silence Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: in a small village 65 km away from Athens Posts: 9	need your advise Hi everyone I really need an advise as you can see I am from greece an the language will be a little problem for me I mean maybe I won't be able to express all I want in the right way but I will try. I will tell you a story. I am 38 years old and I have a girlfriend since highschool. She is now married with 3 children. She is my best friend for all those years. When we were younger we were close we were talking about several things and mostly about our family problems we were both coming from very severe family and we both had a mother we were affraid of. So we kind had one another. (that is the way I see it maybe she doesn't). She got married very young because she wanted to leave home and this was the only way. We were all that time in touch and we were going for long walks at least once a week. At about the age of 26 (don't remember exactly) she told me she had psycological problems and had started to visit a shrink. I didn't pay any attention I mean she was telling me about her sessions and about things she discovered through the therapy but only that. Last October she started to let me get deeper to her problems. In a few words I don't know the term but she has multiple personalities. I mean when I talk to her I may talk to another personality who will not remember talking to me. And she has at least 4 of them. I don't know why she decided to let me see all that maddness because thats what it is (you can't undestand it if you don't see it). The bottom line is that from last October I am coopperating with her shrink in order to avoid a suicide. I had to talk to her over the phone ( because now I live about 70km away from our hometown) and try to understand if she was my friend I was talking to or another personality and if she was about to leave home and go to a bridge near by. she is very clever and she trusts me so she is telling me things that she does't tell her dcs. She does't know I talk with her shrink and cooperate with him. Anyway all this situation led me to a therapist because I started to loose my mind. From July and on I stopped beeing so involved because I couldn't anymore. now she is in hospital and will stay there for at least 5 months because they have to feed her (she has stopped eatting properly for the last year). the advise I need is this: her shrink is asking me to help them again by visiting her at the hospital at least once a week and staying with her some hours. I remember the last time I went to see her in the hospital I had to take the train to leave and I felt panic in the train (it was the first time) and it took me hours to feel better. I feel that what the shrink is asking me is to go back in jail. Am I too shelfish here?????:

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