How to be a Bully.....online?

[lumberjim]

I certainly get accused of it enough.( and UT lately ) I generally don't bother to argue about it. But, as i think about it, I can't seem to decide what it is about what I say or the way I say it that makes it 'bullying'. It kind of bothers me.

I've asked jinx, and one other person. jinx shrugs and shakes her head. she doesn't get it either. The other person(left nameless unless they decide otherwise) says that it's because I don't mind telling someone about themself, in a funny way, without apology, and that somehow influences others to share my opinion, which (I guess I could see) makes the person feel outnumbered and bullied.

But the usage of the label 'Bully' implies intent. I can't honestly say whether or not i have 'intent to bully'. Not consciously, i think. When i pick on someone, it's in response to something they say to me or someone else. I've never gone out of my way and initiated anything out of the blue.

I know what that's like.....Dagney.

So, help me out. If you think I'm a bully or a jerk, I'd like to know why. Specifically. I promise I won't hold it against you. sigh.

..........It strikes me as i close this, that this is a bit attention whorish. well, surprise, we're all like that a little bit. It's just that I've tried not to turn the conversation in this direction in the middle of a discussion about something else, everytime someone calls me (or UT) a bully.